I think Ford announced that the gap should be 1 mm now. I run .035 in mine but it's turbocharged. wider gaps cause wires to go away quicker.
I guess we have a difference in professional opinion. My opinion is based on experience of several years as a tune-up tech and from the results of my own car. My original wires had about 150,000 miles on them and the only reason I changed them was that I wanted a set of red ones. The current set has 110,000 miles on it with no sign of weakness. Plugs have been changed every 60,000 miles.
Closing the gap when not needed tends to destabilize idle quality. The spark is not as hot, and can lead to a miss, especially when the engine is running in a somewhat lean mode.
My suggestion is only to move to the outer limit of spec, not beyond.
The problem with blowing out wires and other secondary ignition parts is from worn plugs, not from plugs set to the wide side of spec.
The need to close the gap when boost is added is legitimate, but it is a separate issue. When cylinder pressure is increased dramatically, the gap needs to be closed, or the available voltage needs to be increased, along with more robust wires to support the added voltage. If this is not done, there will be a miss under load.