Sadly, she her head is messed up. She can't deal with her distant past and some tramatic things that happened to her when she was 5yrs old. Later, she had some other tramatic things happen (Long story). Her body chemistry is messed up due to some female problems. Both her parents died in 2004 too.
She just will not cope with things, so her solution is to get rid of everything. She even left the church she was a member of for over 20 years! Cut off her church friends..
I love her very much and spent a ton of time with a professional counselor so I could learn to work with her. We made a lot of progress earlier this year then suddenly she shut me off and called a divorce attorney.

I've just come off a year of being treated for depression with medication and therapy. You can find some very dark places when your in that frame of mind. If she doesn't seek help then your future together is not good. If she does than you can ask for a stay of the divorce until she is in a state of mind that is better suited to making such a big decision. When mental illness is involved they'll(the courts) usually grant this.
Hang tough and don't let it drag you down. You can't help someone that doesn't want help so try to see the difference.
Good luck!

She is being treated because I saw all the medication in the kitchen when I was last there. The evil one has her in his grips.

It takes some time to sort out the medication and find what works. It took me 3 months and 5 different meds before we hit on the right one. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain. Once they get that leveled off then they can start working on what got her to this point.
I'm sure shes very scared. Facing demons you've locked away for so long always is. Be there for her and talk to her doctor... a lot!

I wrestled with mine for 5 years before I sought help. After a year of medication and therapy I no long need either. I don't know if that kind of recovery is typical but hopefully it helps.

As for the divorce, I'm pretty sure they won't grant one to a petitioner(the person who files for the divorce) that's actively being treated for a mental illness. Maybe talk to a lawyer. Lots of divorce lawyers will give you a half hour freebie. Go with questions in hand and pick their brain.

Good luck. Hope this helps!

You are essentially having her declared mentally incompetent if you are denying her a divorce because she is being treated for a mental illness. I would be shocked if divorces were not allowed without such a determination of incompetence, as people can be under treatment for many years.

I would advise you think a great deal before using such a tactic.

Some relationships should change and some relationships should end. Trust me, it happens to us all. I know this from very recent personal experience.

Tell her you love her, have no animosity, and want to stay friends for life. And then let her go! Let her have her own life! If you love her, help her realize her independence as much as you can, both emotionally and financially.

Only a foolish man attempts to bind someone to them using guilt and legal BS. If you go through with your plans, this woman will never trust you again.

If you ever want this woman to willingly come back in your life ââ?¬â?? let go completely!

For all you know, you are the cause of her mental anguish.

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For all you know, you are the cause of her mental anguish.

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Let's hope that isn't the case.

Good luck, I hope everything ends up working out in the end.