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Originally posted by ScottR:

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Nonetheless, as a matter of common sense, I expect there are definite drawbacks to gay adoption. And these drawbacks have to do with gender socialization. Parents are a major source of socialization for children. Little girls (for example) benefit greatly from the presence of a feminine figure in the home.

When I come home from work late at night, both my boys run down stairs and excitedly announce, �??Daddy's home!�?� I�??m not just some �??parental unit,�?� neutered, without a gender. My children know about gender differences, celebrate, and embrace them.

Second, there is the possibility that a gay couple would encourage or even intentionally socialize their child into a homosexual lifestyle. This is not desirable.

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I am sure that there would be some cases where the parents tried to raise the child as if they were a homosexual. This cannot be done! The child would have to be taught when they were young the difference between men and women, it would have to be explained clearly, obviously some things would need to be explained as the child got older and could grasp different ideas. The child would have to be able to grow and develop as a normal child would. They will adapt to the situation that they live in. If they want to tell their friends that their mom's lover is their aunt, or introduce their friends to both of their moms, that is something that the child will have to grow into as they are older. The parents would have to embrace whatever choices their child makes in their life, either hetero or homosexual. This is something a lot of heterosexual parents have trouble doing. The child then becomes afraid to tell their parents about their life, depression results, possible failed heterosexual marriages, more children that would now be in broken homes, etc. If the child raised by a homosexual couple wants to be hetero, that is fine! If anything I think the gay couple would be happy for them because they wouldnt have to go through the troubles that their life has seen. And, they would have biological grandchildren. The same goes for the hetero couple that raises a child who comes out as gay/lesbian.

Originally posted by ScottR:

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In my life, I have encountered a number of little children who live in a single-parent household (usually mother only). It never ceases to amaze me how a little girl longs for a real dad in the family. This is not abnormal. It is very natural. Even a little girl longs for a masculine figure in her family. She wants dad to read her the story of the three little pigs, not just mommy. She wants to rough house with dad and misses him when he�??s away late at the office.

I think what we really forget in this debate is the precious little children. Little children want mom AND dad. And they want plenty of quality time from both parents. That makes them happy.

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A lot of homosexual couple will have a masculine and a feminine role mode, even if they are of the same sex. A butch lesbian for example could be more masculine then most straight men.

Originally posted by ScottR:

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I think it does matter what sort of messages we send them and the sort of behavior we promote.

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Agreed!