never mind the aabove question:
(Damn I like to post alot

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I feel like I'm typing in my diary here:
dear diary, I thought about dropping my subframe today...

Seriously - I went out and looked at things and my original plan was just to prone to a screw up. Jacks and heavy weights that may or may not want to shift around are just a bad idea!
but, like I said I'm impatient.
I took my set of steel ramps and 2 2x4 blocks to construct a solid platform to evenly support the weight of the whole subframe. I still had the one 40" 2x4 accross the center that I used to hold up the frame, I pulled all 4 sub frame bolts and very gently eased it down onto my little platform. Worked perfectly - I have room to reach in and undo the p/s lines, the s-frame is solidly supported, and like I had hoped the ball joints just slid right out of the knuckle. For tonight I rethreaded the front s-frame bolts loosely just to be doubly sure nothing slides around - hey we could have an earhtquake tonight right?
Tomorow I'll undo all the p/s lines and get a neighbor to help lift the s/f of the platform.
My hope is that by renting a real tranny jack I can even get the tranny down during the week, pull the flywheel for a resurface, and our clutch party saturday can be a "simple" reasembly of the poor car.