Well, we just spent the last 3 hours talking. She is obviously still mad at me for outing her. She doesn't think it was an affair, but I said there is such a thing as an emotional affair, so even if she just stayed out talking with him at Denny's until 4AM, if she was willing to share things with him that she wouldn't share with me, then I don't agree it was right.
She also admitted that she didn't tell the then entire truth about a retreat she was going on two weeks ago.
I don't know whether to believe it was non-sexual, given the amount of mis-information I've gotten in the past.
Bottom line is I'm not chasing her. I think she is going to come over every Saturday for dinner, so maybe we can start there and we will see how it goes.
But I did say that one of my boundaries was that as long as we are married, I don't want her to even appear to be dating and that I'd give her the same consideration.
This is not about logic, because if it were logic, I would have pulled the plug back in September or even earlier. She asked me about this and I said, do you really think I don't have feelings for you. If I had no feelings I wouldn't be trying as hard as I am to work this out.
So keep praying, I upset her a bit more than I wanted today, and she still doesn't think I'm very sensitive.
TB
