I'm with you on that, I have some pretty strict rules about how the relationship will go. There are certainly some trust issues. She will need to account for her time quite a bit, her cell phone, checkbook etc must be completely open.
I will offer her the same thing, as I have nothing to hide.
But most importantly, she must be able to share her feelings with me so that if she does feel like I'm not meeting some need, she comes to me about that need instead of looking for it elsewhere.
But she does have to admit her wrongs and repent before any of this will work. I believe I've done the same, and the final two pieces are for her to do the same and both of us comitt to working on the marriage.
She doesn't come home until she can do that. Right now she probably can't because some part of her thinks that what she did was ok because she left the house.
TB
