I wanted to respond to the guy whose gf was raped. She is caught in the middle of a power struggle between you and her family. What everyone around her needs to realize right now is that she needs to be re-empowered. The rape was a loss of power for her - she was powerless against the attack. She needs to be empowered to make her own decisions. It didn't exactly happen to anyone else but her, and she needs to be the one to decide what to do about prosecuting or not. To force her to do anything - you are just re-traumatizing her. The same would go for you getting revenge - do you want to re-traumatize her? If you get caught and go to jail, now she's even more alone. Plus, you made a decision for her, if you did do that. Listen to what she wants - again, re-empower her. Support her whatever decision she makes. I would suggest that she talk to a counselor, more specifically a rape crisis counselor if there's one available in her area. They can inform her as to what happens whatever decision she makes, whether it be to prosecute or not, the process involved in that, likely outcomes, etc. They can also provide her with the emotional support she needs right now. But PLEASE, don't make decisions for her, or force her to make a decision, it does NOT help the situation at ALL...
