(I do know how to spell stupid by the way...)
Well - in a couple days we'll soon see if my problem was a sticking IAC.
I took it off to clean and test it...well... a 9volt battery wasn't satisfying our testing juices...we (my dad who is a electrical engineer and I'm on the mechanical side) decided to test it using the car battery.... Hey guess what, it doesn't work anymore.
Bye Bye IAC

Of course, after the fact we realised that the car battery had just a little more juice that what the valve needed...plus I'm not sure what I was supposed to be looking for anyway...
I suspected a bad IAC...and now I will find out when I buy a new one tomorrow...or the next day, depending when NAPA gets it in. I will be QUITE P1SSED if I toasted a perfectly good IAC valve... well...live and learn right....RIGHT?