Originally posted by linabby:
I am so sorry to hear about your pain. Have you thought about dating again?!? I mean have you thought about taking her to the movies out to dinner. In life we sometimes take others for granted and dont appreciate what we have. In a marriage often people continously fight over the same things. Do you remember what it was like when you were dating? The feeling of never wanting to be apart of calling just because you were thinking of the other? Every day stress and drama make us lose sight of that. Every woman wants to feel special wants to feel important. Maybe the drama of every day life has taken that away. God is the most important part of this. I dont personally know your wife so i dont know if sending her gifts calling her sort of RE-dating will look like a genuine or a desperate attempt to win her back but in a relationship you have to keep it "Fresh and sexy" Meaning having one night out without the kids, without worrying about the mortgage or the every day drama might help. Im not saying this will be your quick fix but maybe it will help you and her realize the reason you love one another so much to get married and make it last this long. Your in my prayers.

lina



Already been tried, she wants space, and she has essentially said that it's TOO MUCH, too late right now.

I think she is afraid I'll talk her out of this. She has NEVER lived on her own, since she moved out from her parents home into our home, after the wedding.

So, I'm trying to look at the positive, I do think she is being somewhat selfish, and I've told her that. Our teenage daughter thinks she is being selfish as well. (Lori told her tonight what was going on.)

Poor child, she is torn up by it. I told her, not matter what happens, do not blame herself and do not hate either one of us, we both love each other, and simply disagree on the way to solve the problem.

TB

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