I am so sorry to hear about your pain. Have you thought about dating again?!? I mean have you thought about taking her to the movies out to dinner. In life we sometimes take others for granted and dont appreciate what we have. In a marriage often people continously fight over the same things. Do you remember what it was like when you were dating? The feeling of never wanting to be apart of calling just because you were thinking of the other? Every day stress and drama make us lose sight of that. Every woman wants to feel special wants to feel important. Maybe the drama of every day life has taken that away. God is the most important part of this. I dont personally know your wife so i dont know if sending her gifts calling her sort of RE-dating will look like a genuine or a desperate attempt to win her back but in a relationship you have to keep it "Fresh and sexy" Meaning having one night out without the kids, without worrying about the mortgage or the every day drama might help. Im not saying this will be your quick fix but maybe it will help you and her realize the reason you love one another so much to get married and make it last this long. Your in my prayers.
lina
