Originally posted by Trapps:
Tony,

I have travelled some very rough roads in my 10 years of marriage. If she's ever thought about making a move, i was unaware. What I do know is it's a constant challenge to have a good marriage. Here's the rub, both people have to work for it. The commitments you are willing to make, and then follow through on, must be met by her. I hope for the sake of all involved that things work out for the best.

Mark



Thanks,

I value your advice. I know she too needs to commit to making this work, and I'm afraid that she is not willing to do that work right now, I just don't know.

Today I've been at great peace, and then at other times, I'm just fuming mad. We talked about one of the events that lead up to this and that was buying a new home. We need a new home, but I thought she was showing homes that I couldn't afford to buy, so I wasn't really motivated.

Well, she just shut down and took it as I didn't want to buy an new home. Now this happened like 4-6 weeks ago, and I'm just now finding out she felt this way. Of course I told her then in my own way, by saying something to the effect of "when are you going to show me homes we can afford?"

Well, instead of saying that given what you said you want to spend, these home DO fit in that price range, she just took offense. I supposed I should have trusted her, but then she should have clarified that they WERE in that price range.

That is just one example, and I know things lead up to that, and I was pretty insensitive to her need/want to get a new home. However, I think she was TOO sensitive to my comment. Or at the very least, she should have asked for clarification. But then so should I.

I better stop writing about that, because I'll get worked up again.

I finished my first workout in a long time

We went to seperate YMCA gyms

TB

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