Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General Common Interests Well, after 6 years I'm single again...

Dude...you are gonna' be forced to play THE GAME. Don't jump to her command or wishes. I know I know, she's not like that. Well you are gonna' have to be. When she realizes that you are not at her becon call just because you still love her, then she will start to desire you more and more. Then BAM! you've got a new found spark and a fresh start. Even then you should keep her slightly distanced to make sure her desire is maintained. Throughout this process you need to try new things in life and explore new methods of communication. Such as; take authority of the relationship by making firm decisions and delegating your time together, spice up your sex life with her by doing things completely different(nothing will take her back to "the norm" like old sex), and make sure that she knows you are keeping your options open. Don't fully commit yourself to her right away. Let her know that she is in the presence of a bachelor. Most of all, don't take any sh!t from her. Even if she is the sweetest person in the world you need to keep her in a firm grip. As far as tonight, talk to her about her intentions of meeting up and spending time together. Don't talk about your problems or about crap from the past. Just focus the conversation to find out what she is thinking to accomplish, and why she wants to accomplish it. Then, regardless of what she answers, say "well I'm going out with the guys tonight so maybe tomorrow or something...I don't know I'll have to give you a call" And ALWAYS have excitement in your voice, like you're getting ready to accept an award for the years biggest pimp. Excitement can either be contageous or it creates jealousy on the behalf of the other party. Keep her guessing. I know what you want to do. You want to run and hug her and hold her forever and wake up and have breakfast and cuddle. However these are serious times and there is no time for wants. Focus on what you need to do.

EDIT- Oh and never let her stay too long. Always keep the visits short. If she stays the night, make sure she leaves in the morining. If she comes over to watch a movie, after it's over tell her you have to get some sleep or that you had plans to meet some of your boys. Don't let her get comfortable. Keep her on her toes and make sure she is making most of the effort. If the level of effort is lacking on her part then you have your answer. If she seems to want it worse than you do, then you are in and have established control of the relationship.