May sound stupid but I put a pair of rubber gloves on my right hand to get a better grip on the filter and it has worked where other things have not. The fram sure grips may work good for you also.
I bought a wrench for the wifes mini-van that works flawless on a 3/4 drive wrenchs, got it at discount auto parts for 10.00 dollars it only loosens the filter and it enlarges when you tighten it to fit the filter.
