Most meets are more than 4-5 guys and we do like to talk about what we did to our cars. I learn something new every meet.
I post in other car message boards and people get real emotional about their car tastes, like sports teams.
FYI: Clubs for Mustangs, Falcons and even Chevy Corvairs have been around since the 60's and they are like families. I seen pics of meets with whole clans attending, not just the car guys. Could learn a few things from them.
Again, online it's easy to say "&^%$#**", but at a meet it's all fine.
I say if you start a flame war, pick up the phone and call each other and settle it.