Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General Common Interests Am I over-reacting? (GF issue)

My gf came home last night, back from going out with her friend Nancy and started talking about her night, etc, and then she tells me all about Nancy's boyfriend wanting to buy a brand new bedroom set and get rid of the one that he has now, which is only 3 years old and has a 3 month old mattress. Then she says this:

Her: Yeah, Nancy said her boyfriend is going to be selling his bedroom set. It's really nice, and I told her we'd buy it from him.

Me: You did what?

Her: Yeah, I told her we'd buy it all for like $100. (Now, this is a KING SIZE BED with a BRAND NEW mattress, a full oak dresser with a mirror, a nightstand, etc. $100? No way!)

Me: Umm...I think he's going to ask for a little more than $100. I can't get the money to buy a bedroom set! What's wrong with the one that we have now? (Which is the one that my grandmother got me when I moved in here, and it's not even a year old. It's a queen sized bed with a dresser with a nice wide mirror).

Her: Well, I don't like that one. We could just throw away that one and get another one. Or we could sell it on Ebay! (WTF?? Sell it on Ebay? How are you going to ship a bed and a dresser?)

This p****d me off because that's something my grandmother gave to me that she didn't have to. That's like having someone give you a fairly new car and then just giving it away to someone. Besides, she may be getting her hours cut, so why waste money when you don't have to? She always wants to buy new stuff when we already have stuff already...that's why she's got huge credit card bills because she buys new clothes all the time. What do you guys think? Am I over-reacting?

Just for reference, this is the same girl who says she doesn't want to watch shows on the Discovery Channel, History Channel or TLC because she has to learn stuff; she wants to watch TV shows where she doesn't have to pay attention to it or think about. Why watch TV if you're not going to pay attention to the show???

Okay Rynn, here's my opinion:

Girlfriend - Ensure you lay down all the rules and regulations regarding what you will/won't put up with before things get too far. If she's committing you to an expense you don't feel comfortable with, tell her to stick it. If you're slowly finding out you don't have as much in common as you first thought, the harsh truth is it might be time to move along.

Wife - These are tougher to deal with. They're securely in the door and they know it. Once you say "I do" you lose about 70% of your ammo when disagreeing. If you disagree too much, you'll lose about 70% of everything you have owned, own or hope to own in the future.

You can't easily get out of a "wife" situation, but you can handily control a "girlfriend" one. I'd start oozing her to the door immediately. Before long, she'll get the picture. Sounds to me you may not enjoy this coupling as much as you once did and it may be time to do something about it.

HTH

you're not overreacting a single bit.
not at all.
that is totally ridiculous that she offered to buy something that you most likely would have to help pay for without asking you first, it would be afterall half yours since you'd have to sleep on it and stuff.
and like you said, you have a new set of furniture already, there is no point in getting rid of it especially when money may be tight.

Yes I understand there has to be compromise in relationships, I practice it quite well in fact, but I believe you definitely have to put your foot down on this one.
this is a materialism vs. practicality issue.
wants vs. NEEDS.

stand your ground and refuse to budge.
(if I find out you let her change your mind with her female tricks, I'm gonna drive over there and kick you in the ass!)

Originally posted by Rynn:

Her: Yeah, I told her we'd buy it all for like $100. (Now, this is a KING SIZE BED with a BRAND NEW mattress, a full oak dresser with a mirror, a nightstand, etc. $100? No way!)

Me: Umm...I think he's going to ask for a little more than $100. I can't get the money to buy a bedroom set! What's wrong with the one that we have now? (Which is the one that my grandmother got me when I moved in here, and it's not even a year old. It's a queen sized bed with a dresser with a nice wide mirror).


You're right. a) he probably wouldn't take $100 for all of it. b) if you already have something, why look for something else? c) She's trading something almost brand new for something old, with the matresses that her friend and her friend's BF have spilled bodily fluids on no doubt.


Her: Well, I don't like that one. We could just throw away that one and get another one. Or we could sell it on Ebay! (WTF?? Sell it on Ebay? How are you going to ship a bed and a dresser?)


Dump her! Dump her now!

Just for reference, this is the same girl who says she doesn't want to watch shows on the Discovery Channel, History Channel or TLC because she has to learn stuff; she wants to watch TV shows where she doesn't have to pay attention to it or think about. Why watch TV if you're not going to pay attention to the show???[/QB]


One of my brother's GFs was like this. She came over to his place and decided that the guitar that my dad got him for his 16th birthday was too old. She bought him a brand new guitar and sold his old one to some guy she barely knew. He had to hunt down the guy who bought the guitar and traded the new one for his old one.

She hated shows that had to deal with learning or using your knowledge. It was cartoons and sitcoms for her all the way. She even hated game shows. And it showed....

I assume she has to be a knock-out of a woman for you to tolerate such stupidity.
WTF???????????
Unless you are only interested in her love hole and not her mind, I suggest you moving on to something better.
I can't believe how can someone put up with that **** :rolleyes:

Women always want new stuff. They are never satisfied with what they have. There is nothing you can do about it.

I just bought my wife a car last year, now she wants a new car again. I would love to give here anything she wants, but I don't make enough money to afford that kind of life style.

If your bed room set is important to you because your grandmother got it for you, then you just need to explain that over and over in different ways until she get it. If she doesn't get it, well then.....

ugh
I realize we're all kind of overgeneralizing and obviously not ALL women are like this but god, why are chicks so messed in the head?!!!!
more specifically why are they so materialistic?!
I just don't get it.

this is why I have no girlfriends.
chicks are totally irrational in everything they do. there's no rhyme or reason to any of their actions. and they refuse to listen to reason as well.
what the hell!


I dunno if you should be so severe and dump her as some people keep suggesting, but you definitely need to try to pound some reason and logic into her head by communicating to her what you just expressed above.

Rynn - Run.

HYPOTHETICAL

R - That's fine (GF'sName), you can pay him the $100 for his old bedroom set.

GF - What do you mean I can pay him.

R - Well, I don't want it. But you can buy it if you like it.

GF - But what about the set we have now.

R - Exactly.

I don't believe that I would go so far as dumping her over $100, but I would set down some rules. What good is having the king bed going to be if you will be sleeping on the couch because you pissed her off?

A king bed is nice though. Perhaps, if there aren't any stains ( :p ) on her friends matress, you could use the frame, and matress so you could have the king, and then sell the rest of her friends stuff?

For real, sorry Rynn, she sounds really stupid. No [blank] is THAT good!