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Did any of you married/long term relationship folks know as soon as you met your wife/husband/SO that they were the one ??

I met this girl last week that I really like, we have a huge amount in common, we like a lot of the same stuff and it's been a long time since I could talk to a girl like I could with this girl.

Unfortunately, she lives in Phoenix, I live in New England but I'm waiting for a work transfer to Arizona anyway so I don't care about that.

Anyone ??? Did you know ??

With over 50% of marriages ending in Divorce, everyone thinks they found the "right one". You will never know if they are the right person or not, divorce papers can be served even to the most foolhardy of love lorn fools.

I have chosen to be in a LTR rather than get married, $50 to get married VS. %50 and lawyer fees to get divorced. Easy choice!

we didn't have a clue
when we first started hanging out, we were just being two cool kids, kicking back and enjoying ourselves.
we even at one point shared with each other our ****ty experiences in the relationship we had just gotten out of (both got out of long term relationships with our high school sweethearts that were heading towards marriage, but turned sour).
we both agreed we didn't even want to date or make any sort of relationship out of our friendship.
heh
things just crept up on us in the months afterward and eventually we decided our hearts were ready for another long term commitment (this was back in '98).
we're now engaged.
I dunno if I've ever really believed in love at first site or whatever. I like the idea of taking years to fall in love with someone and never knowing where things are gonna turn.

I didn't know right away. But I pretty much knew after we had been friends for several months that Lance was the one for me and that we would eventually get married. Unfortunately he didn't know it! It was all for the best though, because I needed to finish college (Lance was already done), and it was much easier to do that without being in a serious relationship or married. We were close if not best friends for 4 years before we started dating! But once we did we knew right away we would get married. When you've been close friends for so long, once you start dating you either know right away it's going to work or it's not.

I think that using the 50% of marriages end in divorce excuse is a bunch of crock. Marriage takes work and people are too lazy to work at it. When the going gets tough, people get out. Marriage is not always going to be peachy keen. You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. As a married couple said to us on our Wedding video "We wish you good days and bad days, because you are going to have bad days, but working through those bad days only makes your marriage stronger".

Actually they say that living together before marriage actually takes a greater toll on a relationship because you are sending conflicting messages...that it is okay to be intimate, but that you don't want a commitment.

=) Christy

I figured it out when I got hit over the head in an accident at work. Seriously. If you don't know I am older than Chris & that was an issue for me. We did manage to become best friends & when I was hurt he came over to take care of me. I knew from that moment on no one would ever take better care of me or love me more.

And we lived happily ever after! We plan on renewing our vows next year.

Best of luck to you. You sound really happy in your post.

you know when they are the only thing on your mind 24/7 ... anything and everything you see reminds you of them... when you try to make decisions you stop and ask yourself how would this effect them... when you realize its not that you could live with them.. its that you cant live w/ out them... when they do things that would normally bother or annoy you and you just stop and laugh b/c they are just sooo adorable .. or when they bring the best out of you.. you stop doing things you would normally do b/c you know it makes them happy... you go totally out of your way to do something nice .... you would give up anything and everything for them if it came down to it...

maybe I think all this b/c Im totally in love w/ my other half and this is how I know.. forgive me if I am wrong

To further add on Rachel's post.. it is also:

When you realize that it's not that you CAN'T live without them... it's that you don't want to..

Ray

Well said.

=) Christy

Wife and I broke up 3 times and always got back together in less than 3 days. I made the realization that she's the best thing I ever had the last time and desided I'd stay with her. We've been together for 4 years and Married for 2.

Short version:
She gave me her strawberry & banana yoghurt...