I figured it out when I got hit over the head in an accident at work.

Seriously. If you don't know I am older than Chris & that was an issue for me. We did manage to become best friends & when I was hurt he came over to take care of me. I knew from that moment on no one would ever take better care of me or love me more.
And we lived happily ever after! We plan on renewing our vows next year.
Best of luck to you. You sound really happy in your post.