I was thinking about this last night, here's my take:
To be bad is popular these days (as I'm sure it was in the past too). For example I hear on this board all the time about "pimping" whether its a car or a chick or whatever, when I think of a pimp I think of someone who prostitutes women. Is that a good thing? I never thought so. However its used in a context of being good. More recently I read a post where someone wrote that they were "thugging" one night. Again, a word I thought means something bad, but in the context of what he was saying it seemed to be a good thing. ? So, being bad is cool because it gets chicks. It's up to chicks to go for quality guys and its up to guys to be good quality. No matter what everyone else is doing you have to be able to be confident in your own decisions. When you try to follow the crowd against your sub-conscious better judgement is when you become cynical and think that your not being "bad" enough and that girls go for bad guys.
Sillyness abounds, jerks get girls because at least they will talk to a girl at the bar. I've been to bars dozens of times and seen girls but couldn't bring myself to go over there, partly because you are putting yourself on the line and think the worst (her just turning around and not talking to you which has happened). Jerks are not that interested in the girl to begin with so there isn't much pressure on the girl to respond favorably where as with a regular guy she can see how interested he is and (depending on the girl) can feel like he is relying too much on her positive response (pressure) and get scared away, the girl wants the man to rely on, not vice versa.
All in all, women are humans just as much as men, not gods to be put on a pedestool. When you do that, you run into trouble. Many girls these days have let some of that attention go to their head, even ugly girls dress provacitively and think they are the shiat. :rolleyes: So its not just guys that act like jerks but hey what are you gonna do? Mope about that **** naaa get on with it
