I didn't say she had to be good in bed!
I said you need to be able to make a connection and be willing let yourself go for you an your partners benefit.
Honestly, if she isn't willing to change to make it better for both of you, and I don't mean getting into crazy stuff, it isn't going to work out. I also don't think it's something that is going to happen over night, it takes times, but you can tell whether she is will to work with you pretty quickly. I know, i've taught my girl a lot, more for her benefit than mine.
-Andy
