Originally posted by Keith W:
No sex before marraige! We just had our 24th anniversary, May 9th, we were both virgins. No regrets!
Ah....yeah.. :rolleyes: That may work for some - but not everyone.
I have to agree with ancosta, that unless you are VERY satisfied sexually with your partner, it's going to go to **** real quick.
Relationaships really have to be a "package deal" You have to have everything - NEVER settle; cos you WILL regret it later.
Your partner has to make you laugh, has to challenge you mentally with stimulating conversation, they HAVE to have similar interests or at least NOT have a problem with your interests and of course, they HAVE to rock your world in bed. This is especially important for women as most of us know that men can get off almost every time, but it takes a lot more for women. (So guys - stop being selfish and treat your women like princesses - give them what they need)
MY opinionI would have to say that unless you have slept with at least a couple of people before choosing "the one" - then it is IMPOSSIBLE to be satisfied. Maybe women can deal with it better than men, but no man can tell me that after the first time he ever has sex, that he isn't wondering what the next girl will be like; better - worse. And THAT my friend can cause a LOT of trouble if it plays on your mind too much.
Like my girlfriend told me last night - she knows a married woman who was a virgin when she was married, and now at 50 something is regretting not being with other people cos she doesn't know if she missed out on something. And even if she HASN'T, it obviously it affecting her now!
Like someone else stated earlier, we ARE animals, albeit more intelligent (I hope) than a dog, but our instinctys, especially a mans is to procreate as much as possible to pass on his "seed". This doesn't mean I think that people shouldn't be married - hell no. I am all for marriage - even though mine went to crap.
So to get back on track - take your time with this girl, but only sleep with her if everything else is making you happy. If anything rubs you badly the wrong way then keep it in your pants and move on.
My $0.02c
