Originally posted by ancosta:
Most guys have had one of those girls who refuses to do it with the lights on, or won't provide helmet shines, or is so completely ashamed of her body that she needs constant reassurance, or otherwise sucks (not literally) in bed - and that my friend is a big PITA. Who needs the hassle?!?
Now if these things are not important to you, God bless you! But if they are, I can tell you that if the relationship isn't mutually rewarding sexually, then it is not likely to be rewarding period. How many happily married, couples in modern times have rotten sex lives together?
Now the sooner you guys fool around, the sooner you can tell if you guys are down for it. Maybe if you know about how she is in bed, or what she likes, that is a plus.
In the meantime, you can have some interesting, open chats about sex with her. This shows her you are comfortable in talking about sex in a mature manner, and that you have a reasonable amount of self-confidence. Plus, if you hit it you'll know what she likes in bed, and that will lead to lots of BJs and she may even help you clean your Contour 
oh.. my goodness.. i kept my mouth shut for a while, but ancosta, that's just horrible!
if you depreciate/drop a girl just because she has some "confidence issues" in bed then you're f-cked up. how would you like a girl to leave you just cause you have some 'problems' that she doesn't want to help you deal with? (cause its a "HASSLE") whether it be in bed or not!!!!! hello, everyone's got some kinda baggage these days, damn.
i think there's more to build on FIRST before a guy and a girl even THINK about hopping into the sack no matter how strong the sexual desire (and even if he wants to 'test her out' :rolleyes: )
sure some'a you guys can
fairy around and nail any girl you please-- but as other men have said how can ya trust a girl who's 'easy'?
as for this sex/relationship deal, it's really a matter of choice. there can't really be a set "time", other than when you both are comfortable with taking it to that level.
just my perspective.
