a terrible situation and position for your friend to be in...but one good thing is that they seem to have a great friend in you
i dont envy having to make that decision at all....when my dad passed last fall from cancer he went pretty quickly i guess...i went and saw him in the hospital wed and by sat he was sedated and on a respirator...by sun when i saw him i knew he was dying and i felt as horrible as u can feel ...he was semi conscious as they hadn't given him enough sedative and he was really in a bad place...very restless and trying to get out of bed but totally out of it...
the dr had already told him and my stepmom that once they put the tubes down his trachea they would never come out so i just prayed that if it was supposed to be his time, let it be his time...i didn't want him to hang on and suffer
i saw him again the next night and he was much more peaceful and again i prayed my prayer and then i whispered in his ear that i was there and that i was going home and i told him that the lord was waiting for him to enter his kingdom and that i loved him forever and all he had to do was rest and not try to fight anymore....i was called the nite of sept 11 and told that he had passed from a heartattack in his sleep while they were transporting him to do some other medical procedure that wouldn't have helped anything
his suffering from what we know was relatively short overall and he was able to go w/o us making a decision such as pulling the plug although at some point we would have talked about and probaly done just that...i miss my pops but dont not for one minute wish he had lived with his condition getting worse than it was
sorry to be so long winded as always but this obviously is still a touchy subject with me
