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Originally posted by Pac Man: I'm in that situation except even though we say that we are best friends, she will sometimes blow me off for someone else.   aw whats up with friends leaving friends for somebody else? its so lame
* Kathryn *
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You never know what the future holds.. Be careful though, I was in a similar situation (which eventually led to a one-nighter - 5 years later!), and it's really messed me up. We're still good friends and all, but it definitely changed things. While I wouldn't change what happened, I wish the circumstances were different. It's a delicate line to walk.. Good luck with everything.
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going down a similar road right now
it sucks
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Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. God knows I'm not knocking your pain or circumstance, but it may be good for you to see who she is with open eyes. Lord knows I made every excuse I could come up with in college for this one girl I was friends with. She was knock-out, but a bent fork had a higher I.Q. than this girl and phychological stability was a MAJOR issue, come to find out. And yes, I was blind to most of it until I'd already fallen for her and the subsequent detachment damn well near put me on emotional crutches for close to 2 months...
Her making out with one guy shouldn't ruin your day just yet. If this is consistent behavior, though, then look elsewhere for love.
If it's any consolation to you, the pain was more than worth it to me in the end. It is what allowed me to meet my wife (Spanish, smart as hell, compassionate, STABLE, and had a brief modeling stint in Madrid, if that gives you an indication of looks). I look back on that prior experience and wonder who in the hell was spiking my cereal with LSD for 2 years, my thinking was so off...
Things have a way of working out, if you let them. I'm sure as much as you would like to change her mind about you, you can't. On top of that, life's just too stinking short.
Just another perspective...
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I feel ya dude. I seem to be the "best friend" type of guy. All of those girls who love talkin to me can't seem so figure out why I don't have a steady girlfriend...go figure. I agree with everyone else when they say that she doesn't know the right guy for her is right in front of her. Just stick in it bud. The friendship is irreplaceable and maybe someday after she has settled down you and her will get together. Good luck bud...
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Originally posted by frenchblueC2:
she's just rebounding.
let her get it out of her system and be glad she didn't use you as the rebound.
have been in this situation countless times (although was in denial while it was occuring).
when she's through, she'll be ready for a serious relationship, and you'll be there. Hit the nail right on the head.
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6 months is NOTHING. Thre are tons of other, better women out there.
As a wise man once said, "no matter who she is, there's always someone out there tired of fu(kin' her." (sorry, couldn't resist)
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You should have two lists of girls!
Friends:
Options:
Don't mix them! Unless a woman takes the first step to move from friend to option, and I mean more than talk, keep your feelings for her as a friend! Also, after a long relationship she is probably just playing the field. You can get hurt badly when you mix the two. You treat an option by making your interest obvious and when the friend cardd start to get played you move her to the other list and treat her differently or you make yourself less available for a while to seperate you feelings from the situation. I fyou can't seperate your feelings your toast!
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