John,
let me get this straight. You are talking about sway bar which is sort of U shaped:

Right?
You can then adjust lengths of each end. By varying lengths of this ends you vary torque applied on the center piece. Your statement is that if you change length of only one end (say, 4mm) you changed twisting torque as much as if you changed lengts of two ends by half the value (say 2mm)
This is true. It's true however as far as twisting torque is concerned. But that's not all what's in the game here. To twist the bar you need to do some work. May be work is different?...
Suppose you've shortened left end. Now hold the right wheel and push the left wheel up. Amount of energy stored in the sway bar (amount of work done) is proportional to the angle between ends.

Twisting angle (theta) is proportional to vertical displacement of the wheel. In other words you need to produce more displacement for a shorter end to twist the bar by the same amount. Right? Well, not quite...
The point is you twist both ends, and it doesn't really matter which one YOU pull, there has to be as much torque applied to the other end or the bar will rotate around it's central section (much like when you are going over a bump and you hear that squeak

) Soo... you are saying that even energy is the same.
Yes, but that is not all yet. Torque equals
F x r where
r is arm's length, and
F is force. You need to apply different force on the rignt and on the left to twist the bar the same amount. This is assymetric part. Forces (one force is from the ground pushing on the tire and the other one is from the spring to oppose the first one) are different and that's what matters in the end.
In summary, you need to apply different forces in order to produce the same torque, therefore you need to load tires on the right and on the left differently.
I hope I confused you enough

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