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If you came to a point of asking such questions that does my life make any sense, try to make other people happy... help anyone, make a good day for your parents, friends, strangers on the street... just anyone...
When you see that you make people happier, when you see them smiling, you'll feel much better... you need love as anyone needs it, just you need it badly at this moment, and love is such a thing that the more you give away, the more you have.
Don't lock up with yourself.
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Originally posted by Josch: Being an antisocial troll will only worsen the problem of ever being able to meet someone who will be TRUELY special to you. This chick who left you can't be worth that much if she wanted to hurt you so bad as to leave you. Anyone who ever hurt me that bad wasn't worth my precious time anyways (which I later realized).
I had a bad experience of my own about 5-6 years ago (no, no..wrong, it was like back in 1994-5). I was HEAD OVER HEALS for this gal who just adored me as well. We got engaged to be married. 4 months later, I had had an accident while on a camping trip that left me on crutches unable to work and so she (and I agreed) that she would go into the Navy to get a career in something she had always wanted to do. (She had this idea even before we had ever met, and that's why she thought of it again after my accident). So she took off to the Navy. I was to meet up in the town where her schooling would be after bootcamp would finish. Her letters were very desperate for my love at first while in boot camp, but soon faded in time, while my feelings for her only grew stronger. I met up with her as planned (still on my cruthes), and she was so different. She didn't want nothing to do with me! She was trying to let me off easy though acting like she still cared, but I could tell the fire was out for her. She all the sudden was not ready to be tied down, and blah, blah, blah, you know, right? Well, so I went home, from Chicago back to lonely old empty Washington, and it took months and months to get the thought of her out of my mind. And it wasn't until I went out and started taking part in many social activities that I started to learn how to improve my personality and attitude. I met many other women eventually, but now, the difference was NOW, I was a lot more skeptical when dating. I was not about to just fall head over heal for the first party girl that came across my tracks. I was looking for women that could only be good enough to meet MY expectations. I wasn't going to settle for another flaky girl that couldn't stand behind me in everything for as long as we're alive together. And you know what happened?? With that new attitude of mine, I, several years later, have actually gotten married to a nice young lady (1 1/2 years ago), who has a much higher respect for me than ANY women I've ever dated throughout time. And she even respects my car hobby too. I can say now, years later, that I am very HAPPY that I didn't wind up with that girl I used to be with (And I can't believe I had sold my '90 5.0L Saleen Mustang for her stupid butt). Just try to slowly gain your logic back here dude, and don't do anything rational. Just be patient, and let time heal your wounds, and get back into cars, or some other good hobby, and try to enjoy life alone and with people  This guy has GREAT advice....read then reread, then reread again. Its about respect for me. If someone doesn't respect me enough for who I am as a person, then they don't deserve my time. I didn't learn this early enough, but now know and live by this mentality!!! Great advice...
"The thing from which the work suffers more than from any other evil is not the assertion of falsehood, but the endless and irrepressible repetition of half-truths." – G.K. Chesterton
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I think the best advice would be to spend as much time with friends as possible. Spend time on other things you enjoy. If you like your contour, wash it more often, wax it..etc. Just do something to take your mind of her. Time is the only thing that will heal.
Meeting someone else will be difficult if you're a little quiet but then again if you're that kind of personality, then you're looking for something meaningful which can also take time. Sometimes you meet people in the craziest places when you dont expect it at all.
Just hang in there!
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Best advice: Take up boxing. Or build a model. How about one of those ship in a bottle deals?
Occupy your time elsewhere...
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well, in case anyone wants to know, yes i've read these.  i've felt a little better, just trying to spend time working on the cars and junk, but for some reason, whenever i sleep, i dream of her, especially last night, i knew i was dreaming of her i just couldn't wake up, it sucked... other then that, im trying not to let the junk bother me
*fixed* 1998.5 Contour SE Zetec
No Cat, SVT Dual Exhaust, 2 N1 Mufflers, IAT , Diablo Chip, Iceman Intake, Polished TB, "new tranny"
Various other crap, no more mods for a while, just moved.
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Look at it this way.. You've got a bunch of strangers who you've never seen in your life bein there for you. Why?? because there are people who care, and know that YOU can feel better. As was said, time will heal. Just remember, you've got a bunch of CEGers on your side. If you wanna go to hawaii for a vacation... go for it!! 
Give me more beer and CEG before i get depressed!
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Look, I know I don't know you, and you don't know me. But we share one thing. The loss of a g/f that you thought you loved. I had the same thing(almost, she ended up getting engajed to some guy who is treating her like sh*t)
But one thing that you always have to remember, is that love is not what makes like so great.
Now, true that love does make things much happier. The way I got over my ex was sink my self into something else that meant a lot to me. I consumed my self with freinds and my old car. It helped, and time did pass a lot faster. And before i knew it, I was over her. Not saying that i never think about her. I still think about her. And i thank her for allowing me to feel things that i had never felt before.
But like a lot of the others have said a;ready, just give it time.
Get a hobby that will consume most of your life.
That's my two sense.
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When I find myself in time of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom
Let it be
And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom
Let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom
Let it be
And when the broken
Hearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer
Let it be
For though they may be parted
There is still a chance
That they will see
There will be an answer
Let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom
Let it be
And when the night is cloudy
There is still a light
That shines on me
Shine until tomorrow
Let it be
I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom
Let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
There will be an answer
Let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom
Let it be
McCartney(Beatles)
(listen to it...it has a better effect)
JG
I am not so much a new CEG'er as I just am a quiet one.
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The Beatles kick arse! Dude, immerse yourself in your friends. I had my heart torn out, roasted and served to me on a platter by me ex-wife. But I have friends that love me more than she ever could. And now I have found a girl that treats me right and we have the best time together, all the time. Time heals all wounds and yes "you'll get by with a little help from your friends"......... And another song quote from The Whitlams (Aussie band) "She was one in a million...which means theres 5 more just in New South Wales!" 
Regards, Anastazi Father of the Aussie Bar anastazi.sarigiannis@aam.com"Computer games don't affect kids. I mean if Pacman affected us as kids, we'd all run around in a darkened room, munching pills and listening to repetitive music." ----------------------------------- 2000 Silver Frost SVT #1126 of 2150 8" AFE/"Big-Mouth" Intake, Modified BAT Pipe, IAT Mod - A'PEXi S-AFC, Superchip, No Secondaries, Cobra/CSVT Hybrid MAF, Magnaflow True Duals, MYSTERY Mod, Autolite AWSF22FS's and FMS Wires, ES MM Inserts, Cross Drilled/Slotted Rotors w/ Greenstuffs, APR DTM Spoiler, Escort Cossie Vents, NACA Duct, Mirko Splitter, Koni's & H&R Springs, 24mm "Aussie" Sway Bar, 18" Enkei RS-5, 225/40R18 KDW-2's. Pioneer DEH-P7000R, TS-6975's, TS-6855's, MTX BE104, MTX Blue Thunder PRO502 http://www.geocities.com/qikslvrsvt
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Go Fu ck her best friend!
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