Like Rara said, it's gonna take time, my man... seriously. I'd wager that 99% of the folks on this board have had their hearts broken at least once in their lives. God knows I've been there.
You need to seek out the things you really like to do. Music?? Hit some concerts in the area. Always some good-looking broads at a show (unless you're seeing Dream Theater or some other chick-repelling band)
Sports??? Get some friends together and join a softball/volleyball/bowling/whatever league. Drinking?? Grab some buddies and go to a local watering hole. The point is to get out and have fun. And this:
i was lucky to even get her
is BS. I don't want to hear that out of you. Do not short-change yourself, 'cause women will smell a guy with low self-confidence a mile away. She might have been a great girl, but if she broke up with you IT'S HER LOSS, not yours. That's the attitude you've got to start taking. Plenty of other ladies out there who will see the same things the ex saw in you, you just have to get out there and allow yourself to be seen and met.
