Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General General help... i think im going to end....

well, the time has come, i'm out of options, things to do, so i came here.

as you might know, well some.... or few.... or one, "friction" or Chris, might know, my Ex girlfriend, broke up with me about , i dunno about january 9th. yeah nice birthday present.

since that day , i have never stopped thinking about her. constantly i am thinking of her, i cannot get her out of my damn mind at all. i keep thinking whenever i hear a certain song, pass through her town, or someone mentioning it, her, or whatever. i severely will NOT ever go back to disney for as long as i live.

people have said to just find someone else, the problem is, i cannot. sure, im not THAT ugly, but i got no "mad skillz" i was lucky to even get her, she was the best thing in my life, one girl i actually loved ,and to be crushed the way i was by her is nuts.

my problem is, how the HELL do i get over her, i mean christ, i love her still, i care alot about her, but i mean, i really need to stop this, and i can't keep this up , hell, i've contemplated taking the poor contour and me up to about 105 and hitting something, but that would be bad for the car, not to mention it isn't 100% death, i'd rather not be a veggie.

i seriously do need some help here, i've heard my friends, and i can't do it , so i came here... any suggestions on what to do, other than cry my ass off and be an anti social troll?

time, that's all I can say.
Its really rough right now, I'm sure, but do what you can to keep your mind occupied, and think about other things. Work at it, and everyday will get just a little bit better, though sometimes it may not seem like it.

A girl is never ever something to end your life over (whether it involves a car or not ) in fact, there isn't much, if anything, in this world that should bring a serious consideration of suicide.

Keep kicking, and let time pass.
and as far as a new girl goes, if you want a good one, don't look, she will fall right in your lap when you least expect it.

Being an antisocial troll will only worsen the problem of ever being able to meet someone who will be TRUELY special to you. This chick who left you can't be worth that much if she wanted to hurt you so bad as to leave you. Anyone who ever hurt me that bad wasn't worth my precious time anyways (which I later realized).
I had a bad experience of my own about 5-6 years ago (no, no..wrong, it was like back in 1994-5). I was HEAD OVER HEALS for this gal who just adored me as well. We got engaged to be married. 4 months later, I had had an accident while on a camping trip that left me on crutches unable to work and so she (and I agreed) that she would go into the Navy to get a career in something she had always wanted to do. (She had this idea even before we had ever met, and that's why she thought of it again after my accident). So she took off to the Navy. I was to meet up in the town where her schooling would be after bootcamp would finish. Her letters were very desperate for my love at first while in boot camp, but soon faded in time, while my feelings for her only grew stronger. I met up with her as planned (still on my cruthes), and she was so different. She didn't want nothing to do with me! She was trying to let me off easy though acting like she still cared, but I could tell the fire was out for her. She all the sudden was not ready to be tied down, and blah, blah, blah, you know, right? Well, so I went home, from Chicago back to lonely old empty Washington, and it took months and months to get the thought of her out of my mind. And it wasn't until I went out and started taking part in many social activities that I started to learn how to improve my personality and attitude. I met many other women eventually, but now, the difference was NOW, I was a lot more skeptical when dating. I was not about to just fall head over heal for the first party girl that came across my tracks. I was looking for women that could only be good enough to meet MY expectations. I wasn't going to settle for another flaky girl that couldn't stand behind me in everything for as long as we're alive together. And you know what happened?? With that new attitude of mine, I, several years later, have actually gotten married to a nice young lady (1 1/2 years ago), who has a much higher respect for me than ANY women I've ever dated throughout time. And she even respects my car hobby too. I can say now, years later, that I am very HAPPY that I didn't wind up with that girl I used to be with (And I can't believe I had sold my '90 5.0L Saleen Mustang for her stupid butt). Just try to slowly gain your logic back here dude, and don't do anything rational. Just be patient, and let time heal your wounds, and get back into cars, or some other good hobby, and try to enjoy life alone and with people

Listen, I realize you have no clue who I am, other than what you see on these boards, but I beg of you to please take my advice; do not do anything to yourself. I know exactly what you are going through. I went through this, and still am going through it to an extent. This past March the girl that I loved (the first one) broke up with me, because she came to the realization that she never really loved me throughout our relationship. That hurt alot. So much that about a month and 2 weeks ago, I went down to see her and tell her goodbye, forever. The next day I planned on doing it, and actually by driving into a wall at 100+. By the grace of God, that night my Dad happened to read an instant message I sent to her telling her why I went down there, and stopped me from doing anything. Like Rara said, time is the only thing that will help you. You will get over her, she wasnt the last one that you will have, I can assure you. There is someone out there for you that will love you as much as you love them. You definately need to get out, party, whatever makes you happy and can get your mind off of her. Dont do anything to yourself. I am sure that you have many people that care about you so much. And I dont want to get you down more, but think about what will happen to those people if you do that. They will never get over it, it would destroy them as much as it would destroy you. I know that ending it all seems like a way out for you, but its the absolute worst way. Cheer up, dont think about her, and dont worry about having "no mad skillz" The girl that is right for you wont care about your skillz. And trust me, when your not looking or waiting for it to happen, it will, and it will be the best thing in your life. Be good to yourself, Nick

Don't do it. Its just not worth it.
As for getting over it, you need to bury yourself in something, anything. You will eventually get over her, and hardly remember her after enough time has passed.

Best of luck to ya

My advice is just to keep your head up. If she broke your heart, then she isn't who you think she is. Blast your favorite tunes in some headphones. And like someone else said, time heals all wounds.

Seek Jesus

I can understand that it is very hard in your situation. But someday you will feel bless that you were in love.. Try get into... radio control car or airplan; if you like car you probably like RC. RC is alot of fun and requires lots of your time, and only time can heel a broken heart. Best of luck to you.

Yeah, like he is going to come down and fix everything......if he exists at all.

like the others have already...dont do anything harmful to yourself because of someone else....i dont know how old you are and dont mean to insult you if you are relatively young...just seems to me that alot of what u are going through has to do with age at least to some extent....

u have enough relationships u are bound to lose someone u love at least once....we've all been there and anyone who met and was able to perhaps marry their soulmate first time out and have it work is a lucky person

i got my heart stomped by my first girlfriend as an adult....we were engaged and all that stuff...then one day while she was at work she told me she was breaking up with me....i picked her up that day as i always had and sat in the car and cried like a byaaaaatch while she let me down easy...worse thing was that i knew it was coming...we had no chemistry at all and i actually had a dream a couple days before that let me know what was coming...still just the thought of being dumped was the worse part and really killed me

being on the rebound is how i met my next girlfriend....she was fun...loved to party....loved sex (ultimately not with me though)...and just showed me a side of life i had never seen...had my nose wide open as some would say....that relationship lasted off and on for 6-8 yrs....and was good at times but mostly awful overall....a partygirl is not an idea mate it seems :rolleyes: ....after one of our 'get back together' stints we moved in together...lasted 6 months....i tore my achilles playing football and had surgery missed 16 weeks of work etc....instead of her being there for me she lost her mind....couldn't handle the pressure of me being down...eventhough my disability paid the rent and bought food just as if i were still working...that time was pure hell and it was then that i finally realized i didnt' want her at all anymore....she moved out then i moved to another city but was lonely and knew exactly 1 other woman and she was married (she was nice enough to sex me on my bday though)...so i jumped again back into this horrible relationship

by then though i had been through enough that it didn't phase me if we broke up or stayed together i just didn't care anymore but didn't wanna be alone....

(dont laugh) then came aol and i started meeting a handful of women...thankfully only one that i met was nuts and eventually i met my beautiful girlfriend who is absolutely the best person i've ever known other than my mom....shes wonderful to me loves my tour and respects it as my hobby as much as it is and knows how much i love this site and how late i stay up most nites reading and responding to posts.....i started talking to her in nov99 and we've been seeing eachother since feb 00 and shacking up since may 01

nothing is perfect and i sometimes wonder if we'll make it for the long haul (im a pessimist by nature) but as long as i keep doing the right thing by her i think we'll be cool....

sorry to be so long but what im trying to say is keep ya head up and dont let this breakup keep u down any longer....i am by no means a 'catch' i have very little to offer except the good heart that i think i have....if i can do it u can do it

as was also said ...u dont have to look for the right person...they usually come along when u dont expect it but u do have to carry yourself in a way so that u're not a sadsack or giving off negative vibes or that u seem to have no confidence....women love a strong man

nothing gets u over the one u lost like a great new female friend....theres so many women is this world and they are beautiful u'll find yourself a great girl like alot of others on this site have

besides this is summer...the women are tanned and wearing no clothes....if i didnt' have a g/f right now i'd be up to my neck in *****

good luck dude and hang tough u'll pull thru