Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General General Thinking of selling for personal reasons, need opinions

You don't have to sell your car. It's very, very, obvious that you got cars running in your blood. If you sell the contour I?ll bet you?ll just have something else in 6 months anyways. If your selling your car to show that you can be dedicated to something, you might want to make sure your not in a ?one thing or another? situation. There is time enough for everything. You may, just want to not work on it for awhile. Leave it covered in the garage for a few months and pay attention to the things you have been ignoring. Just get some balance in your life.

These are just my thoughts on what you have said. Good luck on whatever you do.

You guys and gals have given some pretty good advice so far. I'm really glad for it. I agree that I think there can be a balance of things, but in the mean time I don't want any possible distractions sitting there begging to be worked on or otherwise. I've all ready got several loose ends that I've obligated myself to and intend to finish up, but beyond that, I'm ready to stop doing the stuff with the cars for now and pay attention to the more important things. I just want to make sure that she realizes how serious I am about everything so she doesn't think I'm just doing this as a knee jerk type of reaction. I'm finally hitting a moment of clarity after being in a fog of oil, antifreeze, and S/C exhaust for the past 8 months.

Keep the thoughts and comments rolling.

Thanks,
Rick

I think that a clear understanding of the situation would allow all of us to contribute more defined and intellgent advice, but I understand that ya dont want to share personal things with everyone in the world, so I respect the decision. I am only 18, so I dont know about all the more complex and difficult thing to go through in life, like marriage, and partitioning time for your family and interests. Now I understand my problem was probably not nearly as intense as yours, but my parents hated me spending time and money on 'just a car', but it is one of my passions, as it seems to be for you. I dont think selling the car will do anything but punish yourself, you probably wont get NEAR what you invested in it, and you will be basically giving away something you love... I would say that if I were you, I would allocate time for EVERYTHING you need to do in life, and learn to take all things in moderation... There are plenty of ways to enjoy life, and if cars are one of your passions, then dont throw it away, sit back, go over the problem in your head, and decide what you personally need to do... but unless money is a HUGE concern and you need what the car would yield... I would keep it. Also if you want to talk about this with me one on one, I am in college, so I am online ALL the time im me sometime, and I would be more than glad to try and help ya man, after all that is what we are here for! good luck if I dont hear from ya...

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Man sorry to hear, decisions like these are tough. I understand about spending time with the one thing/person/belief that is most important to you , but thats it - there is no "one" thing, only many things that have different priorities. And you car is not just a hunk of metal, its something that you spent many hours/days/months on - something you take pride in and respect. I don't know your current situation & how everything came to be but at least try to
compromise, sit down and wieght everything out - it wouldn't matter if this was about a car, boat , plane h*ll even a dog - just talk mang and if you really have to sell one of the things you love to keep one of the things you love then you must - just my 1/2 cent, I just had the same problem or similar - my girlfriend now drives a faster car than me :p

Okay, you can even ask Rachel on this one... I am soooo addicted... even everyone at work knows that I am addicted. I post everywhere I can, if there is a computer with the internet, I am on it in a second... matter of fact I have had some problems in my relationship for bein to atached to my car and the CEG, but I have finally learned how to slow to an almost stop on the weekends when its time for me and my baby!!

but when the weekdays hits again, and me and Rachel are away, I am back on here as always!!

I hope everything works out and you can keep everything and the car... which it will, you just need to sit back and regroup and think about everything... and it will all work out, wont it Rach?

If at any time you think your car will ruin a relationship that you care about, get rid of it. Or, spend less time on it. Life is too short, and people too valuable, to waste either of those away in a vehicle.

There shouldn't be any compromises or anything like that. In a compromise, no one wins.

Without compromise only one wins...IMO only...

Sell with the understanding that this is temporary. Communicate. Don't just sell, because she may, at that time, be thinking "well, that's over." And the next time you go to buy an interesting car, it brings back all the emotions and fears from this moment. Or, on your part, you sell the car and leave the life "temporarily" only to find, 20 years later, dreaming of "those days" and resenting your "other" for "forcing" you to leave a part of you in the past.

Rick,

Do you think letting your wife read this thread would help towards getting her to understand how serious you are?

Aaron

Aaron, I sent her the link this morning to this and the classified ads. She doesn't want me to sell the car either because she knows how much I've put into it. I just want her to really know that I can put the same into our relationship without her worrying that this cycle is going to happen again in another 6 months or a year. I'm leaning towards still keeping the car and just letting it and racing set for a good long while.

Rick