Ok did order everything threw Bill. And even after getting a PM and the info here about the SVT vs non-SVT TB part number, I managed to order an SVT TB gasket

I just called and left a message to see if I can catch the order before it ships, paypal funds have not been claimed yet so maybe can fix it. I'm one daying it out (15 not bad) so I can get it back together thrusday or friday.
About the die grease. No it doesn't conduct its a insulator. Gold terminals don't react like the old tin ones do to weather. Also all sensor connectors have rubber seals in the base to prevent weather getting in. Aslong as the seal is inplace your good.
The TPS is a variable resistor nothing more. It's range on this car is 400-6000ohms put grease on it, and you could induce a external resistence to make the computer see other values, maybe 800-10000 who knows for sure, but it screws it up. Which had to be the CEL problem, it threw it at me without even driving the car.
It was no problem cleaning it, autozone has terminal cleaner, I had a big can of electic motor spray for the model airplanes I fly, and knew it would be safe to use. Took it all of every sensor, and connection.
The IAC is leaking with the bottom bolt broken, and I'm sure she is faulty too (hell could of sprayed it out) but found one from the zone for 37 (Wells is the maker) that should correct the 2000-2500 rpm problem, before removing the grease on the terminals it was 4000 and was starting to go higher. After that it was 2000-2500 at stop but would drop after 3 seconds to 1000.