I took it all apart again tonight and bent the 2 side connections as recommended and used large pieces of 3M tape vs a ton of tiny little ones..
My needles do not rub in the least now but I accidently popped off the tach needle when I was lifting up underneath one time.. I attempted to put it at where I thought the "normal" idle was but I'm a bit off.. instead of using the tach as a reference for shifting (I'm a bit of a rookie yet) I have to do it by sound only.. I think its off about 1000 rpm..
As far as finding that white relay.. does anyone have a picture of what I'm searching for? I looked everywhere under the dash near the headlight area and I did not see a white relay -- is it taped up inside of some sort of bundle perhaps? I held everything I thought it could be and turned on the fogs several times and heard or felt no clicking.