Originally posted by 00LS5spd:
1)The original flowers came on valentine's day. They were brought home and placed in the kitchen unnoticed by me since we had approx. 6 or 7 different vases of flowers around for the kids from the parents and g-parents etc.
2)There were 11 flowers he told her to take the flowers and look in the mirror and she would notice the 12 most beautiful things in the world. Good line, now the guy has 1-up'ed me twice on v-day.
3)I didn't know that these flowers were from him until they were almost dead and being thrown out, then the wife drops the bomb on me about them.
4)I did leave out the fact that he asked her to the Prom too (he is an 18 year old senior in H.S.). She declined, yet I think in the midst of the "flattery" she forgot to put her foot down and put herself in the same situation as if it were me doing the same.
5)She wouldn't tell me his name in fear that I qould rip his heart out, and
6)since I didn't show a whole lot of emotion in the first place she thought I really didn't care which led to less communication in our marriage.
7)That brings us to NOW, with all of this $hit out on the table...I know nothing more has happend, i mean between them, but like I said before...she has allowed it to go too far!! This kid needs a lesson in respect and courtesy, and she will need to let him and others know that this will not fly with her.


1)this i do not like. she should have refuse them without exception. to bring them home was wrong

2)i do not know your wife so i cannot say for sure on this one. if she hates lines then don't worry. if she liked it then it was wrong of her not to shut him down right then and there.

3)i say this is straight out wrong. my roommate just said it was scandelous. either way she f'd up here on purpose which would concern me. i am not accusing her of cheating but of thinking and acting less than honorably.

4)still not impressed

5)if you are like me then i can see this as a safety precaution for both you and him

6)stoic as i am i would have had something to say about it. then again i have been accused of being "too honest" at times. it sounds as though she is looking for something here but since i do not know your marriage i cannot say what for sure.

7)this is her ballgame to play or end. that fact that she has let it go this far without shuting them down says that she either...well...it is not good imo.


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It isn't innocent fun.

this is a fact. i have seen one seriously attached 25 year old guy at work try to get with four different girls ages 20-28 while his "wife" as he calls her even though they are not legally married is at home with their two little boys. i even saw him puttin ghte moves on one of them today. we all know what he is up to and we have discussed it amongst ourselves as well as with him. he is completely open with us about it. i assure you that others at work know what exactly is up. this is serious business. just my opinion though.

notes:
-i would not be at all concerned had your wife refused the flowers and shut him down immediately and told you about it right away but she did not. sounds to me liek she is looking for something. the fact that she is flattered and enjoys the attention is normal and nothing to be concerned about. jsut her response to it.

-the girls at work were imformed of his attached status by another one of the girls who was also in the loop with us for those wondering.

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