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Originally posted by frenchblueC2:
She's the one that needs to say something to these "kids"...
probabaly the only correct response in this thread. she has to make the first attempts at squashing the situation and needs to make it clear that she does not appreciate the attention and if it continues it will be addressed to HR as a sexual harrasment complaint.
you never know, she could be eggin them on... are you sure you know what she's doing during happy hour... 
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Originally posted by Stazi:
I would show up at work one day to take her out to lunch. Find the kid - go up to him and say "Hello buddy" set an empty shell on his desk in front of him and nd give him the wink....he will understand that if he keeps on harassing her - the next visit won't be a polite one.
i don't even need the shell. i find an unspoken physical intimidation to work best.
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ohhhhhhhhhhhh a shell, i gotcha 
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Originally posted by 00LS5spd:
1)The original flowers came on valentine's day. They were brought home and placed in the kitchen unnoticed by me since we had approx. 6 or 7 different vases of flowers around for the kids from the parents and g-parents etc.
2)There were 11 flowers he told her to take the flowers and look in the mirror and she would notice the 12 most beautiful things in the world. Good line, now the guy has 1-up'ed me twice on v-day.
3)I didn't know that these flowers were from him until they were almost dead and being thrown out, then the wife drops the bomb on me about them.
4)I did leave out the fact that he asked her to the Prom too (he is an 18 year old senior in H.S.). She declined, yet I think in the midst of the "flattery" she forgot to put her foot down and put herself in the same situation as if it were me doing the same.
5)She wouldn't tell me his name in fear that I qould rip his heart out, and
6)since I didn't show a whole lot of emotion in the first place she thought I really didn't care which led to less communication in our marriage.
7)That brings us to NOW, with all of this $hit out on the table...I know nothing more has happend, i mean between them, but like I said before...she has allowed it to go too far!! This kid needs a lesson in respect and courtesy, and she will need to let him and others know that this will not fly with her.
1)this i do not like. she should have refuse them without exception. to bring them home was wrong
2)i do not know your wife so i cannot say for sure on this one. if she hates lines then don't worry. if she liked it then it was wrong of her not to shut him down right then and there.
3)i say this is straight out wrong. my roommate just said it was scandelous. either way she f'd up here on purpose which would concern me. i am not accusing her of cheating but of thinking and acting less than honorably.
4)still not impressed
5)if you are like me then i can see this as a safety precaution for both you and him
6)stoic as i am i would have had something to say about it. then again i have been accused of being "too honest" at times. it sounds as though she is looking for something here but since i do not know your marriage i cannot say what for sure.
7)this is her ballgame to play or end. that fact that she has let it go this far without shuting them down says that she either...well...it is not good imo.
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It isn't innocent fun.
this is a fact. i have seen one seriously attached 25 year old guy at work try to get with four different girls ages 20-28 while his "wife" as he calls her even though they are not legally married is at home with their two little boys. i even saw him puttin ghte moves on one of them today. we all know what he is up to and we have discussed it amongst ourselves as well as with him. he is completely open with us about it. i assure you that others at work know what exactly is up. this is serious business. just my opinion though.
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-i would not be at all concerned had your wife refused the flowers and shut him down immediately and told you about it right away but she did not. sounds to me liek she is looking for something. the fact that she is flattered and enjoys the attention is normal and nothing to be concerned about. jsut her response to it.
-the girls at work were imformed of his attached status by another one of the girls who was also in the loop with us for those wondering.
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I laugh at these [censored] who think that they are "Don Juan" because they hook up with all the woman at work. Then, they can't understand why they're single again, after their new girlfriend leaves their dumb ass....If they did it once, they WILL do it again(cheat on their spouse). My son's Mom is on her second marriage and has 4 kids from three different fathers, and neither her ex-husband or current husband "understand" why she is constantly "unhappy" with her relationships...wake up people... 
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Oh my goodness, this whole thing is being blown WAY out of proportion. It's an 18 year-old kid with a crush on an attractive more mature woman buying her a bouquet of flowers and asking her to a High School prom! It's cute and sweet, and if I were here I would be flattered, but think of it as no big deal.
Getting HR involved and calling this sexual harrassment is complete overkill and part of the problem we have today. People have to walk on pins and needles because someone might be offended. Total crap.
However, in a marriage, you have the right to let her know what you think and feel about it. If you are not comfortable with it, then she needs to respect that too. Expecting her to become the Ice Queen at work and only talking professionally is too much to ask, however.
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Originally posted by 00LS5spd:
2)There were 11 flowers he told her to take the flowers and look in the mirror and she would notice the 12 most beautiful things in the world. Good line, now the guy has 1-up'ed me twice on v-day.
How long has this been going on?
If I interpretted that right, sounds to me like quite a while. I would take bits and pieces of what people have said on here. Sounds almost like a part of her is thinking about what it was like to be 18 again. Women love to be flattered, but that flattery should come from you and the fact that she is looking elsewhere for it, personally I don't agree with. As has been said that fact that she brought the flowers home and didn't say a thing about it in hopes that you wouldn't see stands out. It does sound like you two have a good relationship so that shouldn't have happened. Communication is vital, concerns need to be addressed. Even if it is viewed as harmless by her it's not right. Being sneaky went out a long time ago.
If I may ask and if I read it correctly, what did this kid do last v-day?
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How long has this been going on?
If I may ask and if I read it correctly, what did this kid do last v-day?
He just one up'ed me 2 times on this past Valentine's day!! Like I said, last night the wife and I aquashed this whole thing. She didn't step out of the box and realize what this looked like from the outside, and I didn't come down off my pedastal to realize how much we love each other, and even when life throws us some curveballs, at the end of the day we have a great family, a great relationship, and alot of love for one another. Thanks again for the input, it definitly put things in a right light...we can now move and and lock this one up!!
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very good, glad to hear it. now go make babies.
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Originally posted by JB1:
very good, glad to hear it. now go make babies.
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