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Originally posted by 00LS5spd:
he asked her to the Prom
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Shortly after I moved in with my ex, our downstairs neighbor's kid (also 18, except this kid was a jobless loser) left some flowers for her (as a "secret admirer"). A few days later, he asked her out. My ex told him "thanks, but I'm in a happy relationship. In fact, he just moved in with me." The kid was smart enough not to bother her again (although we suspect he did later break in to our apartment  ).
Your wife is a grown woman with a husband and kids, while this turd is a high-schooler looking for a prom date. Seems to me all it will take is your wife to seriously say to the kid, "this is no longer appropriate." If he keeps at it, then she can tell him the next step will be a visit to HR. The kid will probably no longer be friendly to her, but that's his problem, and probably for the best.
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Originally posted by Viss1:
My ex told him "thanks, but I'm in a happy relationship".
What's wrong with this statement? 
Anyway, back on topic, The fact that she accepted the flowers AND brought them home is worrisome IMO. This just encouraged the kid. It needs to be nipped in the bud BY HER.....My .02
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My wife is frequently hit on. Early on prior to marriage, she didn't think it was flirting just a guy being friendly. I kept telling her to be careful, well, one finally tried to go a little further, asking her out, and she wised up. She now shoots them all down instantly. It got alot easier when she got the nice big engagement ring. She just flashed it and they would back off. The rumor also went around that I was a big guy(true) and it's happened less and less frequently.
If you are having this much of an issue, your relationship has bigger problems. Having three kids, I suggest you seek professional help. She should have rejected the flowers or given them to some other woman instantly.
Also, if he showed you up that easy, you may not be appreciating her enough.
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Originally posted by Andy W.:
Also, if he showed you up that easy, you may not be appreciating her enough.
-Andy
Very true. Try to think back when was the last time you did something really nice for her.
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Originally posted by Identity Crisis K.H:
Originally posted by Andy W.:
Also, if he showed you up that easy, you may not be appreciating her enough.
-Andy
Very true. Try to think back when was the last time you did something really nice for her.
To clarify, and not to sound shallow, my wife knows full well that I am not a big Valentine's Day kinda guy. In the same breath, I did get her a nice card, and cards from the kids to her, along with a 1 hour massage gift card to her favorite spa. I am not a flowers kind of guy though. As far as me doing good and nice stuff for her...every morning before I head off to work I leave her a nice note thanking her for things and wishing her a nice day and letting her know any issues I may have had while she was at work the night before. I hug and kiss her in the morning before I go, and while I am home I make sure to do as much of the housework (dishes, laundry, sweeping, etc.) that I can. Now I know that this is just what your supposed to do, alot of couples don't help each other out as much as we do, especially when we are working opposite shifts 4 days out of the week. I always let her know she is beautiful and a great Mother, and showing my true feelings is neer a problem. I think we have a great marriage with wonderful children and I would hate to see this scenario be more than a bump in the road.
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Originally posted by 00LS5spd:
Originally posted by Identity Crisis K.H:
Originally posted by Andy W.:
Also, if he showed you up that easy, you may not be appreciating her enough.
-Andy
Very true. Try to think back when was the last time you did something really nice for her.
To clarify, and not to sound shallow, my wife knows full well that I am not a big Valentine's Day kinda guy.
LOL, my wife and I do not celebrate Valentines Day. It's a amateur holiday. "Oh shat, I didn't do anything all year for you so know I can try and make it up in one day." Not likely. I get my wife 3.99 flowers from the Grocery store fairly frequently and she is happy. I try and do little special things all year long.
-Andy
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FWIW, If I were her, I woulda tossed those flowers in the trash and made sure my trash was visible for the rest of the day.
What did she say to her other coworkers when they asked who the flowers were from?
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Don't show that you're upset about it. Let her get all hot and bothered at work, and when she gets home, take advantage of her hightened state of esteem, and make a fourth kid(or at least try a lot). This is not my first reaction, but it might be the best reaction.
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Ever thought she may being doing this to get a little more action out of you. Women like to see jealousy and protectiveness on occasion.
In a calm manor, tell her how you feel and that it upsets you. If she's sympathetic, you are fine. If she blows you off, you are in trouble.
-Andy
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The problem with America is stupidity.
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I am not sure what was all said between the co-workers that evening, but she was working that night of V-day, so I am sure everyone knew what was going on!! I guess I hate the fact that she didn't react differently and was hoping for a different reaction out of me too.
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