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Wait for the Christmas party and follow him into the bathroom.

I don't think there's much that you can do at this point, other than talk to your wife about it, and ask her not to encourage them anymore.
She's the one that needs to say something to these "kids" to let them know that joking is one thing, but they're taking things too far.

This is why workplaces are so strict about even harmless joking. Obviously these guys are taking the jokes and just running with them, seeing how far they can overstep their boundaries.

I'll need some pictures of your wife to be sure, lol. A silent crush is one thing but gifts and suggestions are a whole 'nother matter. I think her coworker was out of line.

Um... hire me.

This stuff pisses me off. Its 50/50 the fault of the wife and the kids. You need to tell the wife to tell them to STFU, or you need to put a bigger rock on the finger that says "GTFO & STFU".

My girlfriend gets hit on all the time at her work, and it drives me nuts. She doesnt seem to notice when its happening but she'll tell me about her day and I can point out when it happens just through her naratives!

The repeat offenders and I need to have a talk pretty soon come to think of it.... EGL crew up for some fun?

Either way its going to be nearly impossible to stop all forms of flattery and such. Women naturally love the attention, and you cant blame them. What if a few cute girls at your work kept telling you they'd ravage your manbody if you werent with your wife?

I know my post is sending mixed messages so ill clarify: Repeat offenders get both jaws cracked. One time offenders get the dirty look

I appreciate the feedback thus far. For the most part I am a very non-jealous individual, so when my wife did start acting a little different about her work place and the such, I did start to question where i stand in the relationship. I do trust her 100%, we'd just be another statistic if I didn't, and that is a 2-way street as far as I know. My first thoughts were to teach this kid a lesson, my best friend ( a cop) kept that from happening thank God. So I finally approached the wife aobut it and it seems like innocent stuff that has been allowed to be taken too far, so my advice to heer will be to squash ita ll together promptly and then I won't hear about it again from her or anyone else.

JaTo--I do like the idea of the empty shotgun shell.

^Thanks again

way over the line, more so if they know that she is married and has kids.

I have a similar situation with my gf, there are guys that really like her and want to date her and are upset because they didn't have the chance or didn't man up and ask her when they had the chance, and some of em after repeated times of her saying she isn't interested or she will not go to their house to hang out no matter if anyone else is home or not, but just go out in public still don't get it, I'm ready to beat the crap outa them, it is disrespectful and wrong, if a woman says no to you it should be respected, you don't keep doing it and more so when you know they are wil someone. I have also asked that she not hang out with these people because of the way they are acting because if you allow it to continue it will be taken as interest because they will see and hear things the way they want to, not for the way it really is. I can say that because I was like that before, it isn't good.

But I do need to take more comfort in the fact that she says nothing will happen, spends all her time with me and doesn't give in, she also lets me know this in many different ways. But I know they will never stop trying to get her to give in ... One went far enough to say that no one would know if they did anything and my gf's reply was well I would have to tell my bf about it, makes me feel better but I still don't like it ...

someone needs to calm down and stop being so jealous and insecure. (pudmunkie)

as for the original poster, I agree with they guys that are saying that a flattering comment here and there is nice, but when someone offers up flowers and starts suggesting things, that kind of thing is not good. Im sure you and your wife are more than happy, especially after 3 children, but my concern lies with the other coworkers, they most likely will egg on this fellow and start some juicy work gossip. Id voice your concerns with the wife, though make sure she knows you trust her 100 percent. Id say a little chat with this fellow at work would be a good idea too.