Listen guy - and listen GOOD!
I've been there done that...maybe not as young as you, but too young none the less. Got wrapped up in the whole love/infatuation thing without really knowing my ex and it didn't last. Neiter of you have had enough time to establish yourselves as individuals yet. Hell you probably still live at home I bet, and don't have any real responsibilities. Getting married is no joke and DIVORCE SUCKS MAJOR BALLS!
Not to put a damper on your lollipop and popcorm parade, but you've basically fallen in love with you first bit of poon and think you're set for life. Sorry, but in this day and age with how samll the world has become - your are simply sticking your neck out getting married when NEITHER ONE OF YOU HAS EVEN LEGALLY BEEN ABLE TO GO OUT TO A BAR! You're a kid, whether you want to accept it or not. I'll tell you right now - once you both can go out to bars it'll either make or break you. Like people have said. If she starts going out with he friends and has an epiphany that she likes having fun and enjoys the attention of other guys you're SCREWED.
I may sound like MR. Doom'n'Gloom, but I'll let you in a a secret. I married again! Yep, but this time I had allowed myself to discover who I was and also took the time to find a woman who had established HERSELF - trust me, ANY women, and I mean ANY, that hasn't had the chance to grow on her own and feels like she has been held back by a guy, she WILL resent that guy.
At this point, like so many other replies I have read of yours, I bet you're saying "I don't care, I'm stilll getting married!". Fine be a dipsh!t and take a HUGE risk,
But if you want to give you and your girls the BEST chance; Slow the
F@%K down! What's the rush? Like Fmr12B said...are you jonesing for a new toaster?? If you're really intent of making a life together I would suggest you sepnd some time together to REALLY get an idea of whether you are compatible. Living at home and not having real responsibilites makes it seem like there's nothing to it. But once you are married and you have to add stresses like jobs, bills, family commitments, sacrificing what you want to do for something she wants to do and vice versa, then that rosey little workd can start crumbling.
Don't become another statistic - there is no rush. If she loves you and you are meant to be she will stick with you for a while till you both have established yourselves in the real worl, away from mommy and addy's house, allowances, and the fun of sneaking out and having sex in the back seat of your old mans Buick.
I know I speak for many CEGer's, past and present, some who I have even tried to convince to slow down, yet refused and ended up divorced in a year all becasue they thought I was uniqe, stupid or a kill-joy...but unfirtunately their ignorance landed them in divorce-ville.
Take of this what you will, but you kids all need to slow down and let things play out. I'll say it once again, DIVORCE sucks, especially when it results after you find out your wife is messinf around with another dude. If that though makes you feel ill, then congratualtions - you're a real person. If you still think you're impervious to something like that, then you're a clown.
Good things come to those who wait.
