Originally posted by TourDeForce:

When one of you begins to feel like you're in a rut, surprise your spouse with something different & spontaneous... Something you've never done, or don't think he/she will expect. Can be as simple as going sailing for the first time on some small lake, taking a hike to an historic/scenic spot you've never seen, or having candles lit & a nice dinner ready when he/she comes home from shopping on the weekend (doesn't have to cost a lot, just have a little thought behind it). I like to give the wife a foot massage & have a bath drawn every once in a while. Variety is the spice of life.


all of that spontaneous stuff definitely depends on their personality, especially if they're a "romantic".
If I came home to candles lit and dinner or a drawn bath, I'd laugh in his face for being so cheesy.
I'd probably be more thrilled if he wore a wife beater and smacked me on the ass saying "what took you so long? get in thar and make me some dinnah".
But some people dig romance, and I think that's marvelous for them.

Kim 1995 Contour GL Needs less "needs more"