Originally posted by Arhethia:
Prince charles said it best.
"Marriage must be like a buissness"



Sums up what I was going to post in that sentence. I do not think 18 or any age near there is too young to get married - some are ready others just think they are. Most people aren't mature enough or have the mindset to get married until their mid-twenties, not that it can't work out but there will be more change in those younger ones who are still growing and deciding on what to do the rest of their lives. Life hasn't kicked in yet while you are dating, or engaged or while your at your wedding/honeymoon. It kicks in a few months after you get back. You will notice things aren't the same as when you were dating and you will notice it is a second full time job as well with a family. Also after those first few months she will change as well. Things she didn't care about before suddenly bother her to no end. Not that that is bad at all, just not what people tell you before a wedding.

When a couple is married they are more likely than not, forced to change how they deal with arguements. Now they have to work it out in order to keep things great in a relationship. After the first few good fights they cannot just break-up and move on. Both people have to show their maturity and work through these arguements and comprimise.

I am sure you already have done this but sit down with her and sort out the next 4 years. Make sure each of you know what your plans are for college, how you will afford it, what your long term goals are, how you feel about family. Make sure you have it sorted out as best you can. Not that this won't change, but it's good to have an idea of what is going to be happening.

This is all from personal experience, I got married when I was 22, wife was 21, she had a 3 year old son and was still in school I had just graduated from college. We knew what to expect in the next few years but there were still those changes after the wedding and of course the fights. We have had our ups and downs but I couldn't be happier.

Congrats on the engagement and the upcoming wedding. It is definitely a stressful but awesome time in anybodys life.

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