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Originally posted by JB1:
if it makes you feel any better i told my own brother the same thing when he was 22.
I don't need to feel any better because I was never feeling bad.  But anyways, thanks for your advice, I do appreciate the fact that you took your time to give me advice. But...
Still getting married!  lol
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Originally posted by JReebs96sport:
P.S. We are NOT getting married because a little one is on the way or anything crazy like that!!! 
I don't get it, so why are you getting married?
Does your religous beliefs stop you from boinking her before marriage?
Parents not allowing you to cohabitate even though you are both over the age of 18 and allowed to make your own decisions?
Explain, cus I'm just not getting peoples fascination with getting married....
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Originally posted by MxRacer:
19 isn't "very very young" anymore.
actually i disagree with you. our grandparents moved great distances alone when they were that age, and went to war, and other amazing things. most 19 year olds nowadays have trouble holding down a job with 20 hours a week  let alone stepping out of the their parents' homes. obviously there are exceptions but that was the norm back in the day. while the youth are "growing up" faster these days they certainly arent becoming responsible adults any sooner.
Originally posted by Tourgasm:
Sometimes you can mess up a word so bad that spell check doens't know what the hell you're talking about.
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Originally posted by Arhethia:
Trust me when i say that if she likes going out now, then ur scrwed when she hits 21 and wants to enjoy her years.
Lets just say you are ok with this, then your digging the hole for a speration. Then if u don;t agree, then your digging another hole.
when i got married i was 24 and she was 21. we felt "old enough" and mature. she hadnt gone out much then and gotten the partying out of her system. fast forward five years and we are getting divorced and all she wants to do is go out with her friends all the time. making up for lost time i guess. we were much different then then we are now. we started dating when she was 18 and i was 21. she never had the chance to enjoy adulthood on her own and i missed out on my mid 20s partying 
i know exactly how you feel, as well as everyone else here. my strong advice, put the marriage off for awhile. move in together. see if you guys can tolerate each other's presence everyday for a year or so. its waaaaay different when you live together TRUST ME! ask anyone! if things are bliss after a year or so then go for it. its much easier to do that than finding out the hard way that you made a mistake. what's the rush?? besides, it sucks saying youre a 20 year old divorcee.
but, youre gonna do what youre gonna do so good luck and cheers 
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Sometimes you can mess up a word so bad that spell check doens't know what the hell you're talking about.
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Originally posted by snakous:
Originally posted by Rishodi:
when he was 19 and she was 14
I don't mean any disrespect to either of your relatives, but if that's not illegal I don't know what is! I know, I know.
Honestly, I don't even know what or how it happened. But it did. Kinda weirded me out when I first found out/realized it too. But hey, it worked for them.
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My suggestion is when it comes to marriage, do what your heart tells you because everyone else is going to try to talk you out of it.
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Originally posted by svt4stv:
move in together. see if you guys can tolerate each other's presence everyday for a year or so. its waaaaay different when you live together TRUST ME! ask anyone! if things are bliss after a year or so then go for it. its much easier to do that than finding out the hard way that you made a mistake. what's the rush?? besides, it sucks saying youre a 20 year old divorcee.
There is a statistic out there somewhere that a couple is 70x more likely to get divorced if they lived together before the marriage compared to couples who did not.
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Originally posted by Corbett:
Originally posted by svt4stv:
move in together. see if you guys can tolerate each other's presence everyday for a year or so. its waaaaay different when you live together TRUST ME! ask anyone! if things are bliss after a year or so then go for it. its much easier to do that than finding out the hard way that you made a mistake. what's the rush?? besides, it sucks saying youre a 20 year old divorcee.
There is a statistic out there somewhere that a couple is 70x more likely to get divorced if they lived together before the marriage compared to couples who did not.
I've got a nickel that says their is a strong correlation between this statistic and their religous beliefs dissuading divorce.
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Originally posted by Corbett:
Originally posted by svt4stv:
move in together. see if you guys can tolerate each other's presence everyday for a year or so. its waaaaay different when you live together TRUST ME! ask anyone! if things are bliss after a year or so then go for it. its much easier to do that than finding out the hard way that you made a mistake. what's the rush?? besides, it sucks saying youre a 20 year old divorcee.
There is a statistic out there somewhere that a couple is 70x more likely to get divorced if they lived together before the marriage compared to couples who did not.
no offense to you, but ive heard that many times and i think its total bs. while a study may have shown that i think it may have been skewed. it just doesnt make any sense, while the opposite does. if you can explain why you think that is true id love to hear it.
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Its simple. People, go into getting married thrilled and excited. Of course people do right. What they don;t realize is what is ahead of them after they get married. The girl gets so excited about the wedding and honeymoon. When they get back to reality "life" is not so great. Now when time goes by she gets bored!! Classic tale!! Seen it a million times!!
This is were u see the relationship fall apart. I have been told the first year is teh worst and as years go by it gets better or worse. thats a given right. Just make sure the first year rules are set. Cause after u say i do. U can;t make the rules up as you go!! You might as well go to war blind and say what rules, you mean we can;t just make up the war as we go along.
Prince charles said it best.
"Marriage must be like a buissness"
The word "Love" is a blind affection of obsession!!!
Do you have any pics of you and the future bride we can see??
I reject your reality and substitute my own.
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