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#1528524 03/17/06 05:25 AM
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Fellow CEGers,

Just curious to hear what you have to say about my situation. I am 19 years old and I am getting married on July 7 this summer (will still be 19). My fiance and I have been engaged for about 9 months since graduation day from high school. We are so excited!!! Carribean Cruise Honeymoon!!! ... but so many people think and tell us that "you are too young." We really don't feel like we're that young. I just don't see a purpose to waiting when we can marry now and spend more time growing with each other. My parents got married at 18 and their still very happily married. Her parents got married young also. Any thoughts from you guys? Do you think that we are too young (no stopping us now )or do you think the world is just changing its views on marriage? People are getting married in their late 20's nowadays!!! To you married CEGers... how old were you when you got married?!?!

P.S. We are NOT getting married because a little one is on the way or anything crazy like that!!!


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I don't believe in Marriage. Been cohabitating with my long term GF for more than 12yrs. We even have a child together. Neither of us our relgious so no point in a church wedding, and I certainly don't think the Govt. needs to sanction my commitment.





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Originally posted by Fmr12B:
I don't believe in Marriage. Been cohabitating with my long term GF for more than 12yrs. We even have a child together. Neither of us our relgious so no point in a church wedding, and I certainly don't think the Govt. needs to sanction my commitment.








That is a beautiful thing...but the real question is are monogamous!?


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Very interesting...



but I'm still marrying her!


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Originally posted by MapOfTaziFoShoĆ¢ā??Ā¢:
Originally posted by Fmr12B:
I don't believe in Marriage. Been cohabitating with my long term GF for more than 12yrs. We even have a child together. Neither of us our relgious so no point in a church wedding, and I certainly don't think the Govt. needs to sanction my commitment.








That is a beautiful thing...but the real question is are monogamous!?




So, what you're saying is that if we apply for a marriage certificate we would then be obligated to be monogamous?






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Originally posted by JReebs96sport:
Very interesting...



but I'm still marrying her!




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Personally, I think it's too young. I'm 18, my girlfriend is 20. We're both in college, and we've been dating for over a year. I'm not interested in getting married anytime soon. There are good and bad examples of early marriage in my family. My great aunt and uncle married more than 40 years ago when he was 19 and she was 14, and they were happily married for a long time. Until he died a few years ago, in fact. On the other hand, my parents have been married for nearly 30 years and they're not happy. My dad blames it on the fact that he was too young when he got married right out of college (he was 22, she was 21) and he advises me to wait until at least 25. After having to live with my parents for so many years, I can't easily dismiss that advice. My girlfriend shares my viewpoint to an extent. She doesn't want to wait quite as long as I do, but in her family, her older brother got married at the age of 19 and divorced 5 months later.

Really, I think it depends on the person. Sure, it's possible to get married young and be happy. That's just not for me, but it works for other people. I know several people I graduated high school with who are now married and/or have kids. I just couldn't imagine doing that before you even hit 20 years old. But it's do-able. IIRC, the average age of a man getting married is 27 in the US, and the average age for a woman getting married is 25. Honestly, I think your marriage has a must better chance of working out if you wait until your mid-20's. By then you have a better grasp of what you want in a relationship, and what you want out of life. At least that's what I've been told, and I know I'm not yet certain on either of those issues. That's why I know I don't want to make that kind of commitment anytime soon. Sure, you could get married young, and then develop towards the same goals together. But it's more likely that you'll find yourself headed towards different ones. I know at least half a dozen friends around my age, and no older than 22, who have gotten engaged, only to break it off.

Like I said, it depends on the person. You are, however, putting yourself at a significant disadvantage. Young guys like us have only been a part of the serious dating scene for a couple of years. I think if you go through several relationships, over the course of several years, you'd be much more likely to know what you want in a relationship, and how to recognize it when you find it. Getting married early is like shopping for something, and buying the first thing you find instead of shopping around.

Anyway, good luck!


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Hold out!! I was planning to get married. thought she was the one. Dated for almost 2 years. Bam things fell apart.

Unless you too have no need to go out or enjoy your nights ot at bars,then u are fine. Even at 19 or 20 your too youg to make that decision.

Trust me when i say that if she likes going out now, then ur scrwed when she hits 21 and wants to enjoy her years.

Lets just say you are ok with this, then your digging the hole for a speration. Then if u don;t agree, then your digging another hole.

Only way is if you have her completly wipped and she only worships the ground you walk on. Then the marriage will work. Maybe?

Yes my parents were arragned when they got married. Still together. My point of saying this is life back then was different. Only today it is excepted for others to divorce and have abortions and have gay marriages!!


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Originally posted by Rishodi:
when he was 19 and she was 14




I don't mean any disrespect to either of your relatives, but if that's not illegal I don't know what is! I know, I know.


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