i say shame on he dude that has been hounding her, working on her for the last couple months. Double shame on her for listening and giving in to this other guy. It would be triple shame on you if you kept on wanting to be with her. Shes shown that she wasnt either into you, or she just isnt ready for a commitment. Either way it is definately better to find those things out before things get any more serious!
Try not to sweat it man! I mean there are alot of girls out there that adore computer programming geeks!
