Originally posted by BOFH: I'm pretty much a hard core conservative, but I think my anti-gay marriage friends are all wet.
Not because I'm for gay marriage, I'm not. But instead, I really think their effort should be focused on protection of the traditional marriages already out there.
Where are these folks when it comes to doing away with "No Fault" divorce? Where someone can just say, I didn't really mean my vows, I want to go off and boink someone else and not lose any of my stuff.
If my fellow conservatives want to protect marriage, make it much harder to get a divorce.
I'm not saying if a man or woman is married to an abusive partner, they can't get a divorce. What I'm saying is stop women (or men, but it's mostly women) from just saying I'm unhappy, so I want half of your stuff, no I will not consider working on the marriage.
In America, about 75% of divorces are filed by women. Not all of these are for their husbands infidelity or abuse. I've read where upto 60% of men and 40% of women are unfaithful to their marriage partners.
So if you assumed that all women who were cheated upon filed for divorce (which they don't) then there is a large number of women who file just because they are not happy anymore.
If you want to protect traditional marriage, then make it nearly impossible to get a divorce.
Make infidelity count in the divorce, in child custody decisions and for alimony. I.E. if you cheat, you forfeited alimony. If you cheat and your partner was faithful, you are NOT going to be the custodial parent.
Enforce Covenant Marriages. Couple can choose to have a marriage governed by their religious beliefs. This would not be manditory, but rather if a couple chooses, at the time of their wedding to be bound by the rules of their religion regarding marriage, then that is the only body that can grant a divorce.
I know, you can't force people to love each other and treat each other with care and respect. But you can even the playing field and make those who make a mockery of their marriage vows by cheating pay a heavy price for their part in the destruction of marriage in America today.
Tony
Tony, great to see you here brother! Didn't know you were still around...I do in fact lobby my Congressman Mike Castle, and my two senators Joe Biden and Tom Carper for advocacy for traditional marriage at both the federal level and the state level. I also actively participate in local Delaware politics and take every opportunity to express my views to my state and local politicians. I'm all for covenant marriage and the dissolution of no fault divorce however these two issues seem to get little attention to date. I will keep at it though.
I know you yourself went through a rather unwelcome divorce and it's after effects. What are you up to these days, still working for Sun? IIRC you've got a new special someone...
Didn't know you were still around...I do in fact lobby my Congressman Mike Castle, and my two senators Joe Biden and Tom Carper for advocacy for traditional marriage at both the federal level and the state level. I also actively participate in local Delaware politics and take every opportunity to express my views to my state and local politicians. I'm all for covenant marriage and the dissolution of no fault divorce however these two issues seem to get little attention to date. I will keep at it though. 
