"What about the sound the starter makes? i plan to get that looked at very soon. hopefully no damage to the flywheel."
Try this thread.
http://www.contour.org/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Board=trouble&Number=1030584&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1"once the car warms up the idle is fine. does this have anything to do with the colder weather?"
Yes.
"why did it do that since i cleaned the iac valve not too long ago?"
Read Big Jim's post above.
"do i need to clean it again?"
Probably.
