if they didnt pull you or show up when you were in the car or getting out of the car they have nothing on you. you have the kit but the lighting kit shouldnt be illegal to possess but he didnt pull you so he really couldnt give you the ticket. get a lawyer to fight all the points but you are not in the wrong other then having the lights on the road in the first place but we all do that.
if the cop was not intentionally following him then it wouldnt be evasion or interference. interference is when you intentially hide your car aka like a garage or car cover, not when you put it in plain site, at least thats va's def. he did what everyone of us wouldve done and took a few extra turns to his friends house.
