another example. i do alot of volunteer work at my mom's daycare...she started it so she could raise us and still make the ends meet. i have fun with the kids, i teach them right from wrong and i expect them to completely follow the rules at all times without exception. i am loud and strict. and i never have a problem with them disobeying me because i make sure they know i am the boss and what i say goes. many of the parents on the other hand can't get them to obey at all. some of them even ask me how i do it. when i tell them they are shocked because it goes against everything they are being told by the politically correct police.
better yet, one of the 3 year olds not long ago started hitting his pregnant mom. his father was appauled but had no idea what to do about it so he did nothing. the mother tried her best to punish him and get him to stop to no avail. my mother disallowed the behavior anytime she was around but that did not effect the childs behavior at home. when i found out about this i (in front of the mother who knows and trusts me) explained to the boy that men do not hit girls or mommies ever and that if he ever hit his mother again i would come over to his house and beat his butt good and hard. i explained that i am bigger than mommy, stronger than mommy and that i hit alot harder than mommy ever could. he has not hit his mother since because i clearly defined acceptable behavior and i made perfectly clear to him what would happen if he broke the rules. basically the boy needed a man to say no. sidenote: i have never laid a hand on him, or any of the children for that matter, and i would not have spanked him as he is not my child and it is against the rules. my behavior and attitude alone was enough to prevent his recurring negative behavior. the last few months i have been teachimg him, even at the late age of 3 (sooner if he were my boy), how a man behaves. i have actually been calling him a little marine (that is my uncles influence on me showing up again) and rewarding him for good behavior and teaching him honor and pride as well as how to take care of his soon to be born younger sibling. since we have started this training his temper tantrums in public with his mother when he doesn't get his way have stopped. this training will directly effect how he behaves as a teenager. oblviously he will act up and do wrong but it will not be out of ignorance of what is right and wrong.
the other area that needs to be addressed is absentee parents whether due to physical or emotional absence. a boy NEEDS to see daddy treat mommy with respect, honor, dignity and chivalry so that he may learn to do that same and a girl NEEDS the same so that she may know how a woman is to be treated and what to expect as proper behavior from a man. on the filp side, a girl NEEDS to see mommy treat daddy with respect, honor, dignity and chivalry(yes it works in both directions although with certain variations) so that she may learn to do the same and a boy NEEDS the same so that he may know how a man is to be treated and what to expect as proper behavior from a woman. a lack of this alone can and does often time lead teens and adults to seek this attention elsewhere resulting in increased teen pregnancy rates.
obviously unexpected teen pregnancy will never go away because "accidents" for lack of a better word do occasionally happen. these improvements in parental behavior will however have a huge impact on the problem.
