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Man I feel for you I have been there and done that... I just finially realised that if she wants to walk then she can walk and if not then not but I am going to act as if everything is normal. I know that I didnt do anything wrong and that I am doing everything I can do to make her happy but I guess thats not enough. So I just decided that she can do whatever she wants and if she wants to stay then great cause that is what I want but if not then oh well
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She complains about not seeing you enough, yet goes to a bike show and doesnt invite you? That doesnt add up.  Just from what I've gathered, I think shes trying to send you signals that she wants out. The fact of the matter is, if she wanted to make time to be with you or call you, she would. I think shes holding something back and doesnt know how to break the news to you. You need to talk to her.
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Zero, im going to tell you what I have learned about realtionship advice... When there are problems, dont turn to other people. Deal with stuff yourself, posting here probably just made things worse because you are reading all of the worst possibities of what could be happening. I have learned this. The people of CEG are very wise, I will hand them all of that, and we all know they are just trying to help and lend a hand. But truely, they cant give you GOOD advice, because they dont know her. Because they dont know how her mind works. If I were you, I would look up one of her good friends and talk to that person about it, see what is truely going on. But my advice, do your own dance, not the moves of others. People here could be setting you up for a huge mistake. Just be calm and rational when you get a chance to talk to her, think of some things that have been bothering you, list them out and find the best ways to talk to her about it without sounding hostile.
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I agree with some of the above comments.
It's obvious she has started taking the relationship for granted.
But I DISAGREE with playing the ignore game.
That just seems really immature to me.
don't play games.
if you have a significant issue in your relationship - TALK TALK TALK it out.
Let's face it, you found the problem significant enough to ask strangers for advice - so you need to work it out with her.
She needs to be aware how imporant this issue is to you and how you'd like to resolve it.
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Don't you think the writing is clearly on the wall?
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Originally posted by beyondloadedSE:
She complains about not seeing you enough, yet goes to a bike show and doesnt invite you? That doesnt add up.
Just from what I've gathered, I think shes trying to send you signals that she wants out. The fact of the matter is, if she wanted to make time to be with you or call you, she would. I think shes holding something back and doesnt know how to break the news to you. You need to talk to her.
I'll be honest, I agree with Jim 100% on this one. Sorry to suggest such a thing.
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Man, this reminds me of my relationship. I just broke up with a girlfriend of 2 years for kind of the same aspects. It sucks, because you'll never know if you did the right thing or not. I still don't know if I did the right thing and its been about 2 weeks. But i feel if/when I start dateing again I'll feel better... same goes for you, think about your decision, talk with her first, and see whats best. Because once you break up with her, its so easy to go back into a bad relationship with this girl...
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Originally posted by frenchblueC2:
I agree with some of the above comments.
It's obvious she has started taking the relationship for granted.
But I DISAGREE with playing the ignore game.
That just seems really immature to me.
don't play games.
if you have a significant issue in your relationship - TALK TALK TALK it out.
Let's face it, you found the problem significant enough to ask strangers for advice - so you need to work it out with her.
She needs to be aware how imporant this issue is to you and how you'd like to resolve it.
'Scuse me babe, but it's her game. If it's OK for her to play it, why not him?
Must be that jumbly-wumbly thing happening again.
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Take this for what it is worth... I am going to make a few assumptions... and see where it goes.
1) You have been going out for 2 years.
2) This relationship is considered exclusive by both partners.
3) Historically both of you have made an effort to spend time with each other.
4) Historically, you have regularly gone out to movies, dinners, events together.
5) Recently, you are still attempting points 3 and 4, and she is not... either by working when you aren't or not wanting to go out or...
That said... I agree with those who recommend you need to talk. Is she just comfortable with you, or tired of you? Is the relationship not progressing as one would like? I am concerned when anyone dates two years and is not considering a permanent committed relationship (such as marriage) or at least talking seriously about it.
I think the backing off and not calling thing is passive aggressive.
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Originally posted by TourDeForce:
'Scuse me babe, but it's her game. If it's OK for her to play it, why not him?
I think the idea here is that it's not ok for her to play that game. It's childish and immature, and he SHOULD be the bigger person to NOT play it.
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