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Originally posted by TourDeForce:
She obviously takes you for granted & expects you to entertain her. Either that or she's got that stupid idea in her head, "If he really loved me he'd just know what I want.". What a bunch of bull!
If you were trying to get in touch with her for 3 days & she pretty much ignored you, here is some advice I got from my sister.... Good stuff, really....
Make no effort for a little while, like maybe a week. Don't visit, don't call, don't answer the phone if she calls you - let her leave a message, don't give her your schedule, & don't invite her out.
After a week or so, if she calls pick up the phone, but don't get defensive. She'll whine about why, why, why?? At that point tell her, "I've been really busy lately. You haven't seemed interested in doing anything with me in the past, why the sudden interest now?".
At that point, she'll realize she's been taking you for granted & shape up or ship out.
What he said......
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yeah I really don't know if she's trying push me away because i'm going to school or what. I think I'm gonna call her and see if she's home yet.
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At the risk of sounding insensitive, it doesn't sound like there's much of a relationship then. You're going away to school, starting a huge new chapter in your life... keep the relationship in the back of your mind, but also allow yourself to take a look at all the new stuff that you'll find.
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Grrr.
I need to go to bed to get up 5 to be at work at 6 and I know I'm not going to sleep now.
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WARNING-you are about to read a blunt and straight foreward response.
dude, listen to yourself. clearly she wants out, she may call it needing space but what she wants is out and you do not need this stress. relax, take a breath, take care of yourself and let her have her space. later, in a couple of years when you are done with school you can find yourself a women instead of a girl. if that ends up being her then great. if it is someone else then great, but you do not need this crap.
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Very simple ... communication is the key.
It may sound like a cop-out answer, but sit down sometime and talk about it.
The trick is to read between the lines. I bet that she is not comimtted to you, or much else by the sounds of it. You will get the picture if you listen not so much to what she says (which is important) but also to what she doesn't say (which is more important).
It takes a lot of guts to really talk about stuff like this, whether you're at school and known the girl for 2 years, or been married to the same lady for 20 years. Take the plunge and you will really find out.
Not much more can really be said unless you discuss it with her.
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I called her cell and left a message. Talk her we need to talk. This was after calling her house and got no answer. So she must not be home yet. Anyone know of any good ways of taking your minds off of things? I can't sleep 
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Originally posted by my csvt:
WARNING-you are about to read a blunt and straight foreward response.
dude, listen to yourself. clearly she wants out, she may call it needing space but what she wants is out and you do not need this stress. relax, take a breath, take care of yourself and let her have her space. later, in a couple of years when you are done with school you can find yourself a women instead of a girl. if that ends up being her then great. if it is someone else then great, but you do not need this crap.
word. you'll be meeting plenty of nice new girls when you go to school. the last thing you need is relationship drama when you're off to a whole new fresh start  and if this girl gives you drama when you do start then it is more than obvious that she is being selfish and isnt too concerned with your education. dont start college off behind already.
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just give her a little space and hopefully she'll just realize how stupid this whole "space" thing is and want to come back... As for things to take your mind off this crap, ummmm go drive, play some PS2, watch some tv...  and just remember...if they've got tits or tires, they're gonna give ya problems 
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Dude I think my csvt hit the nail right on the head. I went through the same thing at the end of the school year. I was dating a chick in high school who was going away for school. I had the exact same thing happen she wouldn't call, didn't want to hang out, and if we did she ended up getting "grumpy." It's tough because you've been together for so long that she is trying to seperate herself from you so when you go off to school it won't be so difficult.
My advice move on, I know it sounds hard and it is, but in college there are WAY hotter chicks and more of them. Long distance relationships aren't worth it and are alot stupider because you aren't getting to enjoy the college experience by spending time on the phone talking to your significant other. Hope this helps, you may think breaking up is the end of the world, but trust me there are other girls out there that are better.
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