Well, I can't read this whole post and not make a comment of some kind.
First of all Chris, congratulations on getting it done so soon (it seems anyway). My separation with her in the house lasted almost 2 years

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Without this becoming a woman-hating rant ... I can sympathize with both you and John.
Snafu - all I can say is "pre-nup" and even then the law sucks big time when it comes to the kids anyway so you'll get screwed there regardless.
We should have a "throw-darts-at-the-ex's-picture" meeting.

Did you get atleast 40% custody Chris?
Lou