damn im an idiot!
i tries everything to to get this thing running everything that was mentioned and a few other things that i had heard about. so than my father in law says hey lets check the fuses! so we do and what do i find. when i did the o2 sensor replacement i put the number 4 and 11 fuses in reverse order. im an ass! so i go get a new fuse pop it in and guess what the damn thing starts right up! thanks to everyone who tried to help me out. just to let you all know ive printed out all the info that igot on this thread just to keep for future reference. i hope i never have to go through this again but at least now i know what to look for.
thanks again
Luis