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All right. When you guys ALL agree on something, that sends a pretty memorable message.
No Mei Ling for me.
Workin' on the marriage.
Sigh.
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Originally posted by caltour:
All right. When you guys ALL agree on something, that sends a pretty memorable message.
No Mei Ling for me.
Workin' on the marriage.
Sigh.
Should we ask you about it in a couple of days? Weeks? Etc? I mean, you did share it with us, you want us to hold you accountable?
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Originally posted by infuryum:
C'mon, man... I have a reputation to keep up! 
He's not the only one disappointed. Add me, Chris, and Kokopuffdaddy to the list. You know better.
So what would your church think of this?
Suck it Trebek! And by Trebek I mean Seaegee!
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Think about this:
If it would hurt your wife to find out... WHATEVER you were doing... It could be cheating... too many people place the decription on what THEY ARE doing.. instead of what the reactions would be... that is where I see different..
steer clear.. you will thank yourself later.
Ray
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I like to wear dresses and use binoculars to watch grandmas across the street.
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Originally posted by Mushu:
He's not the only one disappointed. Add me, Chris, and Kokopuffdaddy to the list. You know better.
So what would your church think of this?
Know better?? I never said I'd bump uglies with the Asian persuasion! I just said I'm not getting married. In the words of Kokopersian, "RECOGNIZE!"
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I have no life
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Originally posted by caltour:
All right. When you guys ALL agree on something, that sends a pretty memorable message.
No Mei Ling for me.
Workin' on the marriage.
Sigh.
I agree with your decision, but I don't think it's good you even had to ask us to come to that conclusion.
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I think your gut instinct is also telling you this isn't right. You're letting this girl live out rent-free in your head in places your wife should only be living. Your gut is telling you this isn't right.
This post seems to me to be your head trying to rationalize a middle ground to satisfy the gut.
I will say it. You have already been unfaithful to your wife. You became unfaithful the minute you let her move in to your wife's in head suite. The minute this moved from a friendship to an infatuation.
Does she know you're married? If so, then she's nothing more than a homewrecker. She should be pushing you away.
Listen to Gretchen Wilson's song "When I Think About Cheating" (and maybe "Homewrecker" too... see what she thinks of them).
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99SESPORT make a good point. I would tell my wife (I know not for this reason) because I would be sure that she has thought about other men but has never acted on it nor has the thought lasted for more than a second. Like I said I believe in having an open relationship with people and communication is key. On the other hand it might do no good to start out by telling her this and only tell her if she asks what prompted you to work on the marriage. I mean what good can it do to let her know you had feelings for another woman? Still you should trust each other enough to have this conversation, IMO.
About being kept accountable, I say that is one of the best ideas. I don't think CEG is the place because we don't really know you. You need a good friend that you trust to keep you accountable. If it's not your wife it better be someone damn close to you. Good Luck mang and it was a good idea to not do anything thing with this Asian wonder.
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If I had a problem like this, I'd pray I had someone like 99SESPORT to keep me in line. Aaron, you're awesome!
Suck it Trebek! And by Trebek I mean Seaegee!
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Originally posted by Mushu:
If I had a problem like this, I'd pray I had someone like 99SESPORT to keep me in line. Aaron, you're awesome!
Hey, I do what I can.... 
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