I think your gut instinct is also telling you this isn't right. You're letting this girl live out rent-free in your head in places your wife should only be living. Your gut is telling you this isn't right.

This post seems to me to be your head trying to rationalize a middle ground to satisfy the gut.

I will say it. You have already been unfaithful to your wife. You became unfaithful the minute you let her move in to your wife's in head suite. The minute this moved from a friendship to an infatuation.

Does she know you're married? If so, then she's nothing more than a homewrecker. She should be pushing you away.

Listen to Gretchen Wilson's song "When I Think About Cheating" (and maybe "Homewrecker" too... see what she thinks of them).

Brad "Diva": 2004 Mazda 6s 5-door, Volcanic Red Rex: 1988 Mazda RX-7 Vert, Harbor Blue.